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writes:Hi all. I have recently started a college course that is male dominated with 23 boys to 3 girls (me being one of them) I've noticed that a couple of boys keep looking at me when I look up and then turn so it isn't obvious. There's one guy that if he's near me I can feel him staring at me and he continues when I look up. He has also made an effort to talk to me (even if it was about an assignment) whereas the others haven't. There is something about this guy that I find attractive too. I don't have a 'crush' or 'fancy' him but there's something that intrigues meabout him. Does anyone understand what this is? Or am I overthinking it all?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2015): "what is this?" This is very normal for teenagers - very normal for boys to look at girls, very normal for boys to have a crush on girls - and vice a versa. Raging hormones - that's what it is. Teenage boys and girls have not yet reached full emotional maturity - and boys are usually behind girls in that department. That's why it is so important to go very slowly here - just as as suggested by the earlier poster, he has given good advice. Read it again and don't ever rush into things...good luck in your studies...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2015): At 23 guys to 3 girls you can have your pick of nearly any guy there!However i do like the sound of this guy mainly due to the fact that he has tried to include you in the group by talking to you in a sensible way about assignments and course work.This doesnt necessarily mean that he doesnt already have a girlriend at home or in his life,it just shows a mental maturity that none of the others have so far shown.Keep him as a friend and give yourself time to get to know everyone in the group as the year wears on.Feel free to talk to him and everyone else about how and why they got into this college and subject and where they want to go afterwards.Dont emphasise the idea that you are a sexual attraction but that doesnt mean dress dowdy..you may end up with some good friends by the end of the year.The trouble with taking it to romance is that all these guys are very young, as are you...presumably some are still a bit silly about girls if you know what i mean and getting emotionally or physically involved might not work in your favour ..so get to know them as people or brothers and remember sometimes guys set up betting situations about who will date/bed first and then go back into guy groups.Im not saying thats your situation..i am just advising a respectful caution and quite a lengthy period of time getting it together with the workload rather than the romance overload!
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