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writes:Well I've been in a relationship for ten years, we have an eight yr old daughter. We have been through a lot together and always been there for each other matter what. The past couple of years its like he's not really there. He doesn't really talk to about his problems and argues about every little thing. About a year ago I met this other guy that's so good to me. He is in love with me and has recently proposed to me. He will do anything for me. I just don't know what to do anymore, i love them both very much. It's just hard to throw away a ten year relationship and I would really like to know what someone thinks I should do. I really need advice, someone please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): Sit him down. Talk to him. Heart to heart. No yelling, no shouting, no arguing. Ask him why is he so distant. Tell him it's hurting you very badly. Try to get through to him. This might take some time. Remember you have a child to consider :(
Find out the reasons why he's acting like this. If the reasons are valid, and he is willing to work things out, try. Since you say you still love him. If things don't work out, doesn't mean you should jump into the other relationship right away!
Take some time off to get your feelings for both guys sorted out . I think it's normal to look and yearn outside when the person you're with is not showing the love and attention you need. And I also think that there is no point staying in a relationship if you're not happy.
Don't make hasty decisions! Good luck with your future :)
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