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writes:Hey, I have a peculiar situation. I am doing long distance for now. We've been together for almost three years now (not all of it ong distance) but recently, everytime I go back home, or he goes back home, my boyfriend gets extremley upset. He is not himself. he is always tired, depressed and the only reason he leaves the house is either to go to uni (when he does, since he normally just oversleeps) or to go out clubbing iwth his friends. And even when he goes out iwth his friends he says he had a shitty time. I have never heard him say he had a good time. It's beginning to worry me, because even though I am upset of not being with him, i do go out and I do have a good time. I think he should be doing the same. I dont think its healthy for him to always be so upset. He told me that without me he isnt happy, and I never understood how true that was until now. Any suggestions on how I can change this?
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reader, niki1970 +, writes (26 March 2011):
you will need to discuss your feelings with each other. Uni can be stressful and maybe he just needs some motivation and support. He may feel he not getting support as your relationship is long distance. Thats not to say that you should be there constantly. There are many ways to give support. Also if he is stressed or depressed going out drinking wont help him. It is just adding to the problem. He also will need regular sleep to promote good mental health. If you are concerned that he is genuinely depressed he should see his doctor as a first intervention. Gp will be able to diagnose and prescribe medication if needed. The time you both spend together is very important. Make it quality time and make plans together that way you both have something to look forward to when you meet up.
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