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writes:I texted my ex to give me a call back when he got the chance. He called me within 5 minutes. We conversated like nothing happened. I told him I still love him. I asked him if he still loves and have feelings for me. He said yes but for right now, let's just take care of our daughter. I strongly believe in Karma and what goes around comes around. It's just a matter of time. However, when it rains, it pours. I left him sometime last year (I was the main provider. His check was good enough for his car note and insurance. That's it! He couldn't help with the rent and other main utilities. So, I had to put my college loans and some of my other bills on the side to take care of all 5 of us while I am waiting for another job proposal). He's getting everything thrown right in his face. This 39 year old man is getting turned down from job because of his background check from the military. He would say to me, I have stuck him with the bills now. Guess what? He's cheated on me twice, acting different towards me, he told me he wasn't feeling me at all on his birthday. He called his sister saying he wasn't feeling me anymore. If he had the money to head back to VA, he would. When he told me that this past Sunday, I was so vivid, so angry. I hated him after all I have done for him and his two kids. Along with this all, I still love him. I am so mad, I'm moving on but I still love this man. It's really hard because the town we reside in is very small, where everyone knows everyone including their personal business. It's hard to forgive him but I have to in order to move on with my life. My question is, what do I do? or say?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, Heather.
I try to avoid going places because it's a really small town. I'm on vacation at the moment, I head out to the states tomorrow evening with my daughter. So, when I get back, reality kicks in...back to work. I've been taking classes at the gym (spin class and power flex) to get back into shape. I also stay around positive people. It helps out a lot. My daughter keeps me on my feet as well however, when she's with her father, I have more time to myself...I miss her.
Stay busy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMuch thanks, Doc. I've taken counselling thru work and now, since it's the beginning of the year, I'll go thru counselling, again. It does help but it helps even more if the professional would give me steps on what to take.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMuch thanks, Doc. I've taken counselling thru work and now, since it's the beginning of the year, I'll go thru counselling, again. It does help but it helps even more if the professional would give me steps on what to take.
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reader, heatherbug_xoxo +, writes (7 March 2007):
 I can deffinetly relate and i am sure most girls can. Isn't it weird how we feel so attached to the one guy who hurts us? You can try what i did and still do sometimes. Hang out with friends. Watch a movie. I know you said you have a daughter but don't be afraid to have someone babysit that you trust and go out and meet new people as friends of course until you get your heart set on someone. Tell him you no longer want a relationship with him but i am guessing he still needs to see his daughter? He doesn't seem like a father but who does these days? Hang in there and listen to your heart. It has to be telling you the right thing to do. Just don't give in to him! :)
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (7 March 2007):
 The reason it hurts so much is that you do love him but you hate the things he has done. That seems to compound the problem and make it weigh heavy on the emotions.
It would be good if you could forgive and forget. In other words forgive him but don't let him do it again. In order to do this you may need to get some counseling for your own mental health and to keep yourself on track but it will pay off for you in the long run. Hope this helps. Doc.
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