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writes:hi there I'm 25, married and i have been trying for a baby for 2 and a half years. I have PCOS and my husband has low sperm count yet we haven't given up hope of conceiving naturally. I get so down every month when my monthly starts as i keep getting my hopes up. I just do not know which way to turn. I have no one who I can turn to, to talk to. i do not feel like a "real" woman and hate my body as i feel it is failing me. I feel so down and emotional. I have been told my partner and i need ICSI to conceive but this is so costly and my worry of it failing. Any advice would be great or people who are in a similar situation. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): i also have pcos and i have been trying to have kids for the past 4 yrs.... i was diagnosed with it when i was 16 yrs old. i hate it cause i want a baby really bad, anyone out there have any solutions to my problem??? ive never even been prego before,
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2007): Life has a funny way of surprising you. When I was 16 I had an infection in my fallopian tubes called pelvic inflammatory disease,I was told I would never have kids. I was told a year later I have polycystic ovaries and endometriosis... two factors that make it difficult to conceive. I accepted that I'd never have kids. I was put on the contraceptive pill to help with my pcos, 3 years on I fell pregnant on the pill! Unfortunately I miscarried but have just found out that I am again pregnant on the pill!!! Do not panic that is taking you a while to get pregnant, when its meant to be it will be, life has a strange way of throwing things at you when you least expect them. If you smoke, stop smoking, avoid alcohol and eat healthily. Remember, on the main your body will ony allow you to get pregnant if theres a healthy happy home inside you for this baby to live in. Good luck to you and your partner. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): Hey! I thought Id tell you the story of our family and hope it helps... because maybe you could do something similar (its about stress and its effect on babies!!) I am the daughter here not the mom but my family has always been really open about stuff so...
My mom had a number of miscariages early on in her life, she and my dad had been trying to concieve and it wasnt working, and by this time my mom was 37. Then her best friend, who is a foster mom, had a pregnant teen living with her, who wanted the baby(me!!) adopted. She had the family all sortd out, but a month before I was born, they fell through, so my birth mom, who was good friends with my now mom (who btw it SO TOTALLY my "REAL" mom!!!)asked my parents if they would adopt the baby, which they saud yes to very enthusiastically! (and got me!!) My parents always wanted a second child, but they werent too worried about it, they were pretty happy with one, and my mom figured get on with it, she was doing yoga, loads of gardening, and bing a mom to me. Then one day, without even really trying, she ended up prgnant (at 41) with my brother, with no effort at all, after trying for ababy from the age of 26, and 6 miscariages...
So, i guess what im trying to say is... 1) stress and wanting something too much can make it not happen, and maybe if you take your mind off it a bit (i know this would be hard) things might go more smoothly
and 2) you can always adopt. I can say from my experience, a real family is the one you grow up in, and your real parnts are the ones whe PARENT you, and there really os NO big deal about being an adopted kid, its jsut another way to make a happy, loving, fun family. And there are a million kids out there who really need good parents.
If you want to ask me anything else or anything, feel free... I hope this might help a bit...?? Sorry if it doesnt!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2007): I am in the same boat (btw I am 32). Just try to stay positive through it all. Will your insurance cover any of the cost? If you are overweight, the best thing you can do is lose the pounds. I know that is very hard to do with PCOS (speaking from experience). You still have time to conceive. I know of people that are older than me trying to have kids. If they can do it so can we! Keep your chin up and don't put too much pressure on yourself. Stress has a weird way of screwing up the baby making process to. Hope this helps :) keep us posted. -J
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