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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi -I was tutoring this guy - a young adult, his exams are coming up soon. We both got on well - in fact - a little too well at times. We both would catch each other glancing at each other, were often laughing and joking or he would blush sometimes for no real reason and to cut a long story short I think we probably guessed we liked each other a bit more than we should do.Now don't get me wrong - I doubt anything would have happened between us, as it would have been inappropriate and also there was a bit of an age gap between us, however the last time we spoke he said he may only need one or two more lessons and so I told him to get in touch whenever necessary.... ...Three weeks later there has been no more contact and I am wondering if that was his way of telling me he wanted to end the sessions? I am cool if he wants to go it alone and finish his studies by himself - but I would have liked to have wished him well and said a proper goodbye if that was to be the end, rather than just drifting away. Also, I fear because we got on a bit too well, I think I may have scared him off, being the older adult and now I just feel embarrassed about the whole scenario.So my question is - have I scared him off for good or am I just reading too much into this??
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (13 May 2019):
 I think he decided to do the right thing. He was there to learn/study for upcoming tests not to play footsy or flirt with the tutor. Maybe it was a little uncomfortable for him?
YOU really need to get a grip if you want to tutor people. You are there to TEACH. If there is chemistry, YOU the ADULT nip it in the bud. You NEED to ACT like professional here, EVEN if there is some attraction going on. These youngsters NEED to have ONE focus when they see you and that is understanding the subject they are being tutored in so they can DO WELL on tests.
Have you scared him off? Who knows. Just learn from this. Stick to teaching/tutoring... nothing more.
The better YOU do your job the better chance they will have at exams, REGARDLESS of sexual tension or chemistry.....
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