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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Last summer i was speaking to a boy and we met up and then we just started having casual sex (friends with benefits).. i started having feelings for him but he had no feelings towards me so that was when things went wrong. He would always tell me that he hated this girl who basically stalked him for months and then on January this year they started going out, it was so unexpected! I really do miss talking to him and seeing him so much! We are still friends (i think) and him and his girlfriend sometimes have little arguments and i personally don't want them to be together, i just want him to be mine.. and i can't get over him, it's nearly been a year!:/
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 June 2012):
 Off course you don't want them to be together, because you want him. There is a very fine line between love and hate, and am guessing he would not admit how much he liked her and instead talked about hating her to try and get it out of his head. But he came true to himself them. At the end of the day you both decided to use each other for sex. Usually the girl is always the one that ends up getting the feelings, yet the guy is getting sex without any attachments and does not look at the girl as a serious potential girlfriend because she was just a sex partner. When a guy is wanting a girlfriend he will look for a girl that won't give in to sex easily who will give him a bit of a chase and make him see that she is not easy.
It is hard to get over someone I understand that, the best way for you to do that is to avoid all contact with him, accept that he is not wanting you as a girlfriend. Go out and meet new people and time will heal. But first you need to accept it before you can move forward.
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