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writes:hi..i've recently had a sort of breakup...this guy whom i know since over a year and a half...whom i die for...has removed me frm everything...we've had up's and downs.. and we've had some real good time too.he was sure he liked me well, but after a few fluctuations i didnt hear a love you, yet other things were as they were. he was concentrating on his career so i didnt much bother, though wenevea he was in town, we'ed meet up etc.We got really close and most of the time due to seeing em after a long time, i looked desperate, though he could control himself more. he's shown me affection, but i cant realy say if he loved me, he's been way busy. one day, wen he invited me to meet him at his place, i got really emotional, n we had some physical bonding too.i asked him on taking me out more n ol tht...coz i cud see he likes me too, but since he kept things bottled up, i was the one to sprout things up. then wen he came back after tht n didnt cntct me for 3 weeks, i called him up, he didnt receive, neither called back, and then i found he removed me frm eveything.My quest: Did he mind me calling him wen he was busy? was he frustrated coz of his career and i bothered at a wrong time? Did he didnt like me getting physical, does he not love me, or is there anyone else? I am concerned and i want to know if i can do something about it? i wrote an email of sorry and love u etc...but he has nt got back to me..2 and a half mnths already..plz help...thank you all. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): Thank you both for looking at my text & responding to it. It sure is a help coz when you are involved in it yourself, you cant much think from a different pt of view..I shall take care of slowly getting back to my interests & work...because it sure hurts when I think coz it stated as an affair, romantic and all, now it seems to be just one sided, more of an obsession...ealrier I used to receive atleast one text msg each day for 3 mnths, when he wasnt in the country...we used to talk & chat..he mentioned love u each time & said he was falling really bad for me...since he returned slowly things changed, rather he changed, and i kept waiting coz I was the same...his friends yet keep in touch with me & they like me...but coz of this whole thing I kept blaming myself...I didnt play games & was nt artificial & this is wht I get.cant just understand why he felt so bad.. yea, i should have pushed less too..but no one had made me feel so special, n i didnt wanna loose him.the more he got busy, i felt insecured..he took me on drives n ol tht.once he'ed mentioned tht i am a very nice girl but he doesnt want to hurt me, n said tht he's fickle minded & i'll get guys better than him.i hated this statement of his...he had once earlier removed me the same way & after a month had come back frm outta the blue, said sorry & everything was back to normal.he took me out like nthn had happened..he had some one else before me in his past..neways, i should focus on moving on now & being careful & less sentimental...Thanks for your inputs. I appriciate it a lot. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2008): I'm not rormally this 'harsh' hun but when someone doesn't reply to your calls and removes you from everything it's simply becaue they dont like you any more. Personally I think he was a bit of a pig the way he went about it but prehaps your neediness scared the hell out of him.This isn't something you can fix I don't think. Maybe try being alone for a while and working on your hobbies and interests.When the next guy comes along dont hand yourself over on a platter. maintain your interests, dont always be the last to hang up the phone etc.You need to take control. Delete him from everything. Forget him. He isn't worth it. All in all im sure your a good person and no one deserves to be treated like this. If he hasnt even got the guts to call you and tell you its over then what use is he ever going to be in a crisis. You had a big male wimp on your hands
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (14 October 2008):
 Sweetie, it sounds like he has other plans for his life and they dont include you. Perhaps he felt that things were moving too quickly for him as he is busy with his career.... Anyways, since it has been 2 months since you wrote your apology email and theres been no reply, I would suggest that you forget him and move on with your life.Honeygirl
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