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writes: Ok, my question deals with my ex-girlfriend. We started out as best friends then had a harsh breakup where she went to some jerk. I know the best thing was to just move on. Its been a couple years since we last went out and we became real good friends, but this isn't what i ultimately wanted. I still moved on been with a couple other girls but she still constantly pops up in my mind and i sit here wanting her even more for some reason even after being with other people. I just started talking to her alot again and come to find out she has a new bf. It's killing me and i know i should move on but it always comes back to her. Should i try to pursue anything or get over this again. Is there anything i could do to help this? thank you
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (6 December 2005):
 Your ex-girlfriend is obviously over you at this point in her life, i mean, she left the original guy that she left you for, and is involved with another guy again, so had she still have been hung- up on you, she surely would have let you know by now.My advice is... you cant have a one- sided relationship, where the other person doesn't feel the same way.She is just content to be friends with you,and has nothing more than friendship to offer you, I would say.You need to stop obsessing about her, and no doubt, you are comparing her to all the other girls you have been with, which is not fair on yourself, or the other girls.You should stop seeing so much of your Ex, so as to give yourself time to heal. You cant move foward if you are in constant contact with her, it is just going to make matters worse foryou, and at the end of the day, harder for you to finally accept that she is not your future.I would say, keep it friendly, at a distance, with no bitterness and hard feelings, but move on in your own direction, and you will meet someone that you can be happy with, someone who will want you for the person that you are.But just give other girls a fair chance, and you can't be doing this as long as you are moping about your Ex, hankering after someone who will never be yours.A couple of years since you guys went out, and you are still pining for her?? You are wasting valuable precious time on an illusion, dont waste any more.You can do it, just believe in yourself. Take Care and be HAPPY.
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