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writes:Im really stuck. Iv loved someone for 4 years now. He used to like me too. but then messed me around, saying he liked me, then I would do things with him, then he would shoo me off and say he didn't like me. He said he liked me more than a girl, then he asked that girl out. One day he kissed a girl infront of me and i got upset, so he kissed me. which confused me, but he pretended he didn't remember the next morning.. because it was obvious he did it 2 make me happy. I try so hard and he throws it back in my face. we was best friends. hes bisexual and has a boyfriend now and he slowly left me as a friend - for him. He started spending all his time with this lad and leaving me out. He still comes out with me sometimes but hes with him and his friends most of the time. Its been 4 years and i love him very strongly. He has messed my head up so much, seemed like he's used me and I dont think he cares about my feelings, and Iv told him how I feel but I don't think he cares. Is there any things I could try to win him over. Or any techniques of getting over him? Im upset every single day thinking of him because I dont have any decant friends anymore. I always think im loosing him when he chooses other people over me. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): I meant to add that when people get into new relationships they sometimes forget their true friends (some people do, some people would never do this)
Just invite him out for a drink some night and be open and honest with him (I have learnt the past 2 years that being honest and open in friendship is the best way to be-otherwise things will just get really weird and you will become more and more distant with your best friend)
If he still doesn't make an effort to hang out with you then he is not worth your friendship- go out and meet other people and when he breaks up with this guy be there for him-he will really need you then.. but for now try to be happy for him. And you WILL meet somebody amazing soon and have a great best friend at the same time! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): I can understand where you are coming from so much. I am amazed because Im going through this too.
my best guy friend (i love him to bits as a friend) but this Summer i developed feelings for him (we were at a concert and he tried to kiss me..and he would always try to kiss me in the bar too when he was drunk).. i was getting a lot of mixed signals from him and my head was completely messed up.. one minute he was kissing me+the next he was really distant (He is bisexual too may I add)
Sometimes people can have a strong attraction to each other..even fancy each other- this guy is your soulmate now :) he probably does love you deep down- but at this certain point of time he doesn't really know what he wants in a relationship right now. Do not give up on him as a friend- my friend told me he fancied me the other night and i text telling him i felt the same(for him to reply that it was in the past that he fancied me+he doesn't want to tempt our friendship)
Friendship isn't worth losing your best friend/ soulmate over- maybe he will come back to you in the future+tell you you were the one he always loved. But for now just try to move on :) Everything happens for a Reason. Xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionalso can i just add. we have everything in common. we're like telepathic its like when ever something happends we say the same thing. do the same thing its amazing the connection we have. & i dont wanna throw that away. I wanna re-gain more of our friendship
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