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writes:My ex and I have been seperated for the Better part of the last four years. We had an off and on relationship for about three years, but always seemed to find ourselves back together. We has a pretty messy break up to say the least. He ended it over the phone, and confessed to not being in love anymore. I was young, and hurt and didn't take it very well. I spend a good year completely depressed. Not because of what was said necessarily, but because I felt when he left he took half of my heart with him. I couldn't function properly over him. Him leaving hurt so bad, it was more than a break up. I know I lost my other half. I attempted a few times talking to him shortly after and he honestly felt bad, I knew. But something just didn't seem right. Finally I gave up. We no longer talk, nor see eachother. Occasionaly I've seen him around town a hand full of times. When we run into eachother we both just sort of stop and admire one another, it's strange. Now, I find myself four years later and still not over it. It makes me want to just pick up and move states away. Since my ex, I've had 1 relationship, which is my now fiancé. About a year after my ex and I split, I found someone else. My fiancé and I have been together now two and a half years, and plan on getting married within the next few years. Him and I haveour ups and downs, but at the end of the day I still love him. I love him for everything he's done for me, and being someone dependable. Unfortunatly Im not in love with him. I know it, it's taken me this long to realize it. I care about him, but he's never going to make me feel the way my ex does. My fiancé has made numerous remarks that he knows I'll never love him the same way, that I was his first love but he knows he isn't mine. He's always saying he'll never get all of me because some other guy already had me and took that away. It hurts that my fiancé can sayit but I never will. Since my ex and I split I knew he was dating an ex he had known from back in school, and apparently they were engaged. I recieved a facebook message from her outbid the blue, with her telling me she didn't hate me, that she understands my ex and I had a long and in love relationship. She made me aware they were getting married. I didn't know what to say, I don't remember the exact words I used, but I remember just telling her she doesn't owe me anything, that we don't know eachother, but that I feel she took him away from me. But that there was nothin I could do if he didn't love me back. It was then I took manners into my own hands, and I know I sound like a nuts-o but, was drawn to a sort of psyichic/ healers office and decided I'd have a chat. This isn't something I would usually do, infact it was my first time. But I figured what the hell how could this hurt. She did a palm reading and told me the good the bad and the ugly. I made a point of saying nothing, I think I felt as If I was putting all of my hope in her hands. Shebimmeditly picked up on my sadness. She said that this man had come into my life and when he left it was earth shattering. She said that in my heart of hearts I knew this wasn't because he broke up with me but because I lost my soulmate. It hit me, everthing I had been feeling, finally made sense. She says that Shea aware he's with another woman, and I explain he's married. She then looked at me and said that she considers someone married when they love one another and are happy. She says where he is in his life he really isn't happy with her, he doesn't love her, or feel affectionate twards. She says he thinks of me often, and feels a lot of regret. Now, ever since this talk all of a sudden these rush of feelings come back. This woman knew so much. She went into detail on my life, and my feelings twards my fiancé, things only I know that I've never repeated. Needless to say she knows what she's talking about. I believe her. Now I feel like I have to do something, like somethig should be done. They've been married no more than two years, no kids. I guess I feel as if I got in contact with him now I wouldn't be some sort of a home wrecker. What if he does feel this way, and this is my chance of having him back in my life? Am I being selfish?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2010): You are being selfish. I agree with the other post. You are looking for a way out of your current relationship - a soft landing. I think this whole thing is showing you that you need to deal with the problems in your current relationship - make it work or leave him. This other guy is married so that means he has made a commitment. The psychic might well be right - but if so, he will contact you.
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