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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Its been 4 months yet I'm not comfortable with my boyfriend's past..he doesn't have a shady past or anything he's always been very honest to be about his ex gf's..My boyfriend always told me that his ex was a mistake,he broke up with her and she did everything she could to ruin his reputation,so everyone thinks he's this 'bad boy'..and the girl he was with is now a self proclaimed slut and now that I'm dating her ex makes me feel low!what do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2013): If you've already committed to a relationship, you'll have to build it on face-value. Take it slow. That's the way new relationships should begin, because they have a trial period to determine compatibility. That is also the period of discovery, and you learn more and more about each other.
If it ever reaches a point where you can't seem to adjust to what you know; then don't do like so many desperate people do. Bail out before his problems become your problems.
People change will be the first thing that some would say.
The question is, how and how much?
I recommend safe-sex. Getting tested for HIV and other possible STD's together. Having a talk to get better acquainted.
Consider the sources of your information. Avoid hanging out in the old circles that included his old girlfriend. She is sending poison through mutual friends.
If there are still unresolved issues between your boyfriend and his old girlfriend; heed the red-flags and bail out, sweetie!
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