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anonymous
writes:Hi. Me and my first love have been broken up for about 3 years now, but i still havent been able to completely get over him. He has been in a relationship for the past 3 years and it does "look" serious?! Mr and him dated for about 3 years and it was the single most powerful feelin ina relationship i ever had. We had a lot of problem towards the end of the realtionship and we were fighting alot, he said that he couldnt learnto trust me and he broke up with me after we graduated and starting dating another woman who he is still currently with. But, 4 months after we broke up... we started to see each other afain while he was still with his new girlfriend. We still had the late night talks, we still hung out, and still played the boyfriend girlfriend role... and this lasted for about 6 months. It seemed like we were on the verge of gettng back together. But then I told him that I had been seein g another man and he told me that he wanted nothing to do with me!! Which didn't mak any sense to me because he HAD a girlfriend! After that, I accidently let his girlfriend know what had been goin on with us through a text message. I thought it eas him that I was texting, but I guess she had his phone and it was actually him. She found out everything and she asked him about it. Of course he lied to her and she just thought that I was trying to break them up, which was not even the case! Ever since then me and him havent spoken, except maybe once or twice over a text message. And evertytime I try to see how he's doing or what he's been up to, his girlfriend always gets involved and tells me to leave him alone, bla bla bla. I cant stand that! I do want to see him happy, but at the same time, I cant help but feel that he is the one for me. Whether I have recently thouht about him or not, I frequently have dreams baout him and us getting back together! Weird! Dreams where he apologizes for everything and he sayd he can't live without me. Dreams where he leaves his girl so that me and him can work things out. And these dreams occur more often than I think they should. I have had a one year and a 2 year relationship sonce we broke up, but he seems to be the one who my mind ALWAYS comes back to.I always happen to miss him and just wish we coould give us one more try. I've tried to let go and move on.. and in a way I have, but at the end of everything he is the only man who still has my heart. Even after 3 years of being broken up! For some reason I still have faith in us and my heart foesnt seem to wamt to let him go.What should I do. I dont want to interfere with is life and jus overwhelm him with my feelings, because I'm not even sure if he is still holdong a grudge agaiinst me. The time we have talked its been okay, but I'm jus not sure. Should I go gor what I really want or should I continue to just wait for someone else to sweep me of my feet?any advice would help. thanx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): i know how that feels. you are not alone. try and surround yourself with your friends. that helps the loneliness, well it helps me. but yeah, just be positve about finding a guy and put yourself out there. im sure you will be swept up!! =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, I been thinking that I should jus be patient and wait for my prince charming to come around... but when the hell is his ass gonna get here? lol! just kidding.. but really I do. I'm just so lonely at times that I just want the love I that kept my world peaceful back, and thats with him! Maybe one day me and him will be in each other lives again and a new start will be possible, or maybe someone else will sweep me off my feet?! i dont know? I'm jus sick of feeling like this...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): Wow after three years still...?...hmm sounds like you should let him go. he seems to be happy with his current girlfriend so you should probably back off. maybe you should take a trip somewhere where there will be plenty of single guys looking for a good relationship. and if you still think about him, maybe you should seek some help. i mean if he wanted to be with you wouldnt he have contacted you and let you know. but instead hes with his current girlfriend. so just let him go. try and do anything that will take your mind off him. just be ready for the perfect guy when he comes around.
Best of luck to you!!
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