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writes:i have been trying for a baby for 10 months and nothin.ive been on the internet and worked out wen i am ovulating and done it on the dates and still nothin. my mates have told me not to think about it and that im mayb trying to hard but how can i nit think about it as ive read that the average women takes about 6 months to concieve. well i guess im not that averarge person then. please can anyone give me any advice as im really starting to think im never gonna get pregnant.
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reader, tanjatanja  +, writes (24 January 2011):
Hey.I hope you found some help by now,or even better you got pregnant by now.10 months is still considered "normal" and as someone before mentioned even 18 months is still statistically okay. However,if you are older than 35,you should consider talking to fertility specialist.(endocrinologist). Personally I use ovulation calendar at this site becasue they remind me with an email of my ovulation day,so it is easier to track for me:http://www.trying-to-conceive.com/ovulation-calendar/What is your lifestyle like? Doyou drink coffee? Are you under a lot of stress? Do you work out?Are you a professional athleete? Do you smoke? All these things are important when considering getting pregnant.
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reader, tanjatanja +, writes (24 January 2011):
Hey.I hope you found some help by now,or even better you got pregnant by now.10 months is still considered "normal" and as someone before mentioned even 18 months is still statistically okay. However,if you are older than 35,you should consider talking to fertility specialist.
(endocrinologist).
Personally I use ovulation calendar at this site becasue they remind me with an email of my ovulation day,so it is easier to track for me:http://www.trying-to-conceive.com/ovulation-calendar/
What is your lifestyle like? Doyou drink coffee? Are you under a lot of stress? Do you work out?Are you a professional athleete? Do you smoke? All these things are important when considering getting pregnant.
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reader, kathl  +, writes (16 March 2009):
First you'll want to make sure you have intercourse when you are ovulating. You can find out when you are most likely to ovulate by using an ovulation calculator site such as http://www.ovulation-calculator.org/
You may also want to change your intercourse position. The recommended position is the missionary position, as it can keep sperms in your body longer.
Both you and your husband should also consider going to see the doctor soon (the guideline is no pregnancy after 6-12 months of trying to conceive). The doctors will run some tests to identify the cause of infertility. Then, based on what's discovered, you can either get treatment to remove the cause, or use an assisted reproductive technology such as IUI or IVF.
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reader, Bella666 +, writes (7 September 2007):
 Relax. 10months isn't that long really many people i've known have took a lot longer than that. I don't think you'd need to start booking any appointments just yet, I think you'd probsbly just wind yourself up even more about it. The biggest reason for not conceiving is almost definatly stress-stressing about the fact that your not getting pregnant just enjoy trying and rather than think positive try not to think of it at all easier said than done but it will only leave you feeling more dispointed and therefore more stressed out. In fact the average time is 6 to 18 months so don't bother worrying just yet, if still no luck after about 18 months to 2 years then maybe book in a clinic. This doesn't mean that you can't have children just that you may need a little advice or help to conceive. Best of luck sure everything will work out just stop worrying so much! x
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reader, Sandman +, writes (7 September 2007):
 For some couples, it just takes a while before they actually get pregnant. Having said that...It sounds like you are having a bit of difficulty. Some tips may include:--Make sure you're not on top when having sex (trying to get pregnant). When you're on top, the semen is deposited in your vagina but gravity begins to act on it and it begins to seep from your vagina - thus not allowing many sperm to find your egg.--After having sex, try things like having your husband remain inside you for a couple of minutes (10-15). This allows the semen to be deposited and the penis acts as a type of barrier to keep the semen from spilling out when he pulls out (some men will automatically "fall" out when they get limp. If this happens, don't worry). This gives you time to bask in the afterglow of just making love and looking into each others eyes, kissing, stroking your hair, telling you he loves you, blah, blah.--If his penis falls out, simply don't get up from the bed (or sofa, or couch, or floor, or whereever the deed has been done) for a few minutes (10-15). This again allows the semen to remain in the vagina and bathes the cervix in the fluid so that more sperm are able to pass through.--He should not being masturbating or otherwise ejaculating outside of you when you're trying to conceive. Although we make sperm all the time, frequent ejaculation does decrease the amount of viable sperm available for impregnation. If he's just wanting to "get off", he needs to be getting off inside you so that viable sperm is always there when the egg arrives.--RELAX. Stress has been known to decrease the incidence rate of impregnation for couples trying to concieve. Continue to have fun when making love. Don't make it a chore or something that HAS to be done at this EXACT time. If the mood strikes, by all means make love. And do it lovingly. When you do it for the sake of a goal, it looses it's emotional meaning.Good luck and have fun having all that sex. Wish I was gettin' some :)Hope this helps.
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reader, penta +, writes (5 September 2007):
 My insurance allows women who've been trying for 12 months to go to the fertility clinic. You might call now and make the appointment to see whether there's a limit on how long.There are also other options to track your ovulation. Have you been taking your temperature before you get out of bed every morning? ( http://www.ovulation-calculator.com/basal-body-temperature.htm ) Or you can buy ovulation tests, usually in the same aisle of the grocery store as the pregnancy tests ( http://www.early-pregnancy-tests.com/ )And here's an ovulation calendar ( http://www.babycenter.com/ovulation-calculator ) I had a girlfriend who wasn't ovulating. She tried for a year, went to the fertility clinic, got clomid (sp?), and conceived in the first month. Sometimes it's an easy fix, so don't get panicked this early.Ovulation can be affected by stress, illness or disruption of normal routines. After you make your appointment with the fertility clinic, relax. You may find that you don't need the appointment after all.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (5 September 2007):
Try for at least 18 months and then see a fertility doctor.
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reader, jtaunton5410 +, writes (5 September 2007):
 You need to make am appointment with a fertility clinic because if it has been taking this long you may be infertile meaning you cant have kids. You just need to hear it from a professional, they will take tests on you and then tell you your results and possible options if you cant have kids, Like adoption...etc
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