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writes:So I have 2 close friends.I am always there for them for whenever they need someone to listen and give advice to.But when it comes to me, they seem to not care at all. Its always about me me me me me me 24/7. When I tell them that I'm depressed or annoyed or simply just want to talk, they seem to not respond or respond extra late with some excuse of why they didn't respond (usually happens when I'm ultra depressed or very annoyed).And when I do tell them and they respond, they somehow bring themselves in the mix by saying "I've been so tired lately" or "I've been working a lot". Like I am too! I work 1 full time and 1 part time job 7 days a week and I'm tired literally all the time and I still manage to be there when you need me and I always have an open ear.I'm so tired of explaining to them about this because I told them more than once that I feel like they're not there for me when I need them the most. I feel alone more then ever and they seem to only care about themselves. But I don't want to lose my close friends. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2015): I had two best friends who were like family... But they were exactly the same as yours.
Blatantly, they don't care about you as much as you care for them.
I found out the hard way, and now I have no friends.... But I would much rather that then to spend time with people who do not care or even listen to you. Friends are meant to pull you up not push you down. You deserve better.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 April 2015):
 When you talk to your friends is it always these "Woe is me" conversations? Like texting them because you WANT a shoulder to try on or someone to cheer you up? Or are you also supportive and upbeat? Conversations aren't a competition in WHO has it worst.
I had a friend who was like Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh and it was EXHAUSTING to always listen to NEGATIVE stuff.
If they start complaining, CUT the conversation short or switch topic.
If you NEED someone to talk to when you are upset, I'd call mom/dad because THEY will CARE. It seems like your friends AREN'T much for giving (when it comes to support) so "USE" them for what they are good at and find people (or use parents/family) who can help with the things your friends aren't so good with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2015): This is me all over.
I've resorted to having no friends now.
It's sad really, but I feel like I progressed whereas they haven't, so it doesn't bother me too much but it still brings me down. But I have started to feel good being alone and quiet, never used to like being alone especially at night, now I find it peaceful.
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