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writes:Hmmm this is pretty complicated..but basically i'm in a dead relationship...I love him but more as a best friend. He means so much to me and I tell him everything. But i just dont have thos feelings anymore..sex feels so wrong..i feel like crying after. But I just can't bear to break up with him because he's said in the past that if we ever broke up he couldnt face being friends. And I dont think my life would be worth living without him in it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2007): Sorry, but he doesn't want to be your "friend". If you're done with him, just be done with him and stop stringing him along. Guys are friends with girls they want to be with who they haven't yet, or still want to be, but aren't.
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (20 January 2007):
 You need to be honest with yourself before you can be honest with others.
Staying with him as a boyfriend to keep his friendship as you say feels wrong.
Get the courage to talk to him and tell him that you love him as a friend.
If he is such a good friend, he will at least respect you for being honest. He may need some time to adjust, which is understandable but you may still be friends in the future.
Of course, the decision is yours but how long do you think before you meet a guy you really like and they be tempted to deceive your boyfriend. It will not work!
Good luck x
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reader, cd206 +, writes (19 January 2007):
 Okay so what are you going to do? Stay with him forever just so that you don't hurt his feelings by breaking up with him? Stay with him forever and pretend to love him?
He deserves better and so do you. Would you want to be in a relationship with someone who didn't love you but felt obligated to stay with you to not hurt you.
A big part of this is selfish. He's being selfish by telling you there's no way you can be friends if you're not together and you're being selfish by not being willing to lose his relationsip. Can you see you're not doing each other any good at all?
You say you're best friends. If this is true nothing will wreck your friendship.
You can't stay with someone just to avoid hurting them. It's not fair on either of you.
CD
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