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writes:I'm 24 years old and have been friends with this girl since high school. We both kind of mentioned to each other back in high school how we liked each other, but she had a boyfriend at the time so nothing ever came of it. Flash forward 7 years and I still cannot stop thinking about her. She's always on my mind. I realize now that I really really like this girl (and always have), and am kind of upset that I never expressed my feelings fully towards her. She now lives up North and I'm still down South, so distance is also an issue. We've remained friends all this time and we talk once in a while...my question is do I express my feelings to her? Do I risk sacrificing our friendship or do I just suppress and ignore these feelings? Any women out there with some suggestions, I'd greatly appreciate them. Reply to this Question
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 So you've been pining for this girl for seven years and built up a really good fantasy about how things will be IF she reciprocates. Try for the moment to set that fantasy aside.
You must (somehow) objectively assess the quality of the relationship the both of you have shared over the past seven years. Does she view the present state of the relationship in exactly the same way as you? Can your presently platonic relationship withstand the burden of a romantic relationship?
If the two of you are comfortable discussing the present boundaries of your relationship then you can discuss the possibility of taking it beyond platonic. If you don't feel comfortable then your friendship may not be a solid as you think.
I hope this helps. Good luck and take care.
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reader, DIE-romantic.  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 I really think its about time you tell her my friend. :) If its 7 years on and you still feel the same, then definatly! If shes admitted liking you before, then their probably is a chance but if she doesnt feel the same, surely she wont want to throw away the friendship if its been since high school? Maybe the distance could be a problem, but from the age 22-25 i think that you are old enough to move closer to each other or move in with each other now if a relationship were to form?Hope it works out. :) Good Luck. xxxxx
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reader, Pussy Kat Doll +, writes (27 July 2007):
Well there is hope for you because she has been attracted to you. I think you should go for it definatly!!! Even if you dont get romaticly involved with her i think you will still be friends. Does she have a boyfriend???, hopefully not. Well first you need to go up there catch up on things go out for dinner or something and tell how you feel. You should prepare ahead of time what to say. The fact that you have been in luv with her and have never stopped shows you can be in a serious relationship go for it buddy!! dont hold it inside and you will regret it for the rest of your life if you dont do this...
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reader, flower girl +, writes (27 July 2007):
 If you think that there is no chance of a relationship between you because of the distance, then i would say what is the point because it might distroy the friendship you have.
Take care.x.x
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