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writes: After i had been going out with this guy called (P), mind you i was 19 an he was 29 yrs, he broke up with me but suggested about being friends. I said yes to that. Now after about 2 months, the past month or more he has been ignoring my txt messeages mostly and also my calls when trying to contact him.And i know that he's a new girlfriend cos he finally told via sms one day (she's 24). So why is he not being a friend to me when it was at his suggustion to be friends after we broke up 4???
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reader, Rainee  +, writes (12 October 2006):
 Actually, to put it bluntly, when he said "let's just be friends" he probably didn't actually want to be friends with you--he just wanted to break up with you. It's a common way for someone to say they no longer want a person. It's a lot nicer than saying, "hey, you aren't doing it for me, get lost." You just didn't realize that was the actual meaning and took what he said to heart.
By ignoring you, he's probably hoping that you catch the clue and stop trying to contact completely, especially now that he's dating someone else (and probably hoping that your contacting him doesn't jeapordize his new relationship).
Just forget about him. You have much better things to do with your time than chasing a friend that's not a friend.
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (12 October 2006):
 I feel his new girlfriend is unhappy about the fact that he is still wanting to be friends with his ex. Most of us say we will try to be friends after parting, but actually making a friendship work is another thing completely. How many people would be happy to allow their partner to remain friendly with an ex?, not too many.
I feel it all comes down to jealousy and a want for commitment. Maybe his girlfriend is jealous and he is trying to prove his commitment to her. Try not to take it personally. I am sure he still thinks of you fondly. Just give things time.
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reader, camille +, writes (12 October 2006):
 I'd guess he felt bad about finishing with you and thought it would be easier to suggest being friends. He has a new girlfriend now and so basically he either doesn't want to stay friends with you, she doesn't want him to or he's wrapped up in his world. There's no point being friends with him, as it sounds like you still have feelings. Stay well clear, he's not worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2006): you risk friendship for relationship it's hard to see each other as friends when you guys were close together. i understand as to why he doesn't want to be friends respect that and move on
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