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writes:I have been dating a girl who is not a virgin for about six months now and just last week we decided to have sex when I was a virgin. She's same age as I am. Body wise, she's got a body that turns me on and she's great at making out...probably a lil better than me but we have fun times kissing and doing everything else.Growing up i watched a bit of porn (much like every other teenager) and i can easily cum if I watch porn and masturbate after being turned on. My problem is with my girlfriend, it takes a long time for me to climax. it hasn't happened when she has given me blowjobs (about three times) and when we had sex, for me it felt a little awkward. being a virgin, i thought the minute i enter her, i'd feel all aroused more and cum quickly, but the sex wasn't that much sensitive for me. We used protection so maybe it was the condom?Generally I haven't been able to cum quickly with other girls who have given me blowjobs too...unless they are reaallly good, i can go for a long time.i'm looking tips on how i can cum quickly next time we have sex, i haven't masturbated in about a week to have a proper buildup to our second time. Any advice is welcome!
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reader, roggger112 +, writes (1 September 2013):
roggger112 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys.I have put your advice to work though, last time when i made out with her after buliding myself for it...it was much better I was relaxed and freed my mind of all buggage.I got into her and we had sex but again, I didn't cum. After about five minutes she said she was tired and couldn't carry on. Is this normal? She was a little sweaty though.So I haven't had a clearly chance but i'm positive the fault doesn't exist anymore i think. any help that can still be offered, i'd be grateful
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (22 August 2013):
 I'm willing to guess/wager that any difficulties that you are experiencing are more related to apprehension that to anything physical...... If'n you are able to relax, more, when you are being intimate with your G/F, I'll expect that you will find that orgasm occurs just when you'd like (AND, when SHE'd like it!).... and you need only to be patient until you and she can real that rhythm that suits the two of you.....
In ANY EVENT... don't stop trying... but try "less harder"!!!
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2013): You don't really want to rush the process of climax. That's why it's called a climax. You build up to it. You tease to please yourself. It's called "edging." Stopping just before you get there.
Prolong your foreplay. Try and help her to reach climax, and just enjoy the pleasure of the act. Explore her body for her erogenous zones. Ask her to do the same for you.
You're being to methodical or mechanical. It's an art.
You are over-analyzing the process by trying to figure out how to speed it up. You're not masturbating, you're making love. Not cumming right-away can be used to your benefit.
You can build up sexual tension by refraining from masturbation. That includes avoiding porn; which will tempt you to please yourself. When you get your mind off of worrying about trying to climax "willfully" and let pleasure and arousal take over; you will get the best results.
When viewing porn alone, you aren't necessarily in a rush to ejaculate. There is no pressure at all; because you will relax; and cum when you reach the highest point of arousal. There is no set time-frame. No worries. It's the same for sex.
If you can't cum right away, switch up and give her more attention. Enjoy her, that's what she's there for.
Making love is to be enjoyed for as long as you can comfortably "keep it up." Stop the the worrying and you will eliminate the performance anxiety.
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