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writes:Hello =]I broke up with my boyfriend of almost 2 years over a month ago. The relationship was pretty much a chore and I always knew he didnt love me as much as I did with him. I always used to spend my money on him but rarely got anythng back. It was a take, take, take relationship to him. Im glad we have split up now and I can move on with my life, but I still get ever so upset becuase he never gave much to me emotionally or physically. I pretty much gave him all my heart and soul and stupidly enough spent time with him when i should have been doing school or college work. Ive started hanging out with my mates more often now and its been great fun and im happier than ever. Its just when I think of how much I gave to him, it really upsets me and I ask myself, why did i deserve being thrown away? How can I get over the fact that these things happen and how can I stop feeling sad when i think about it?Thank you
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reader, Skeez +, writes (28 April 2008):
Skeez is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you to everyone who responded to me. I am happy that I have moved on and Im glad i did the right things. thanks again to everyone who replied. =DMore advice from others also would be greatx x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): I'm sorry you've ended up in this place.
But on the other hand, you seem to have learned in one intense session what it takes a lot of women a decade to learn with one bad BF after another. Be glad for that.
Forgive yourself for making the mistakes when you really didn't know any better. Hate yourself for making the mistakes when you already knew better at the time but didn't have the willpower to avoid it.
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reader, Chippy2  +, writes (28 April 2008):
Good for you to have relized this at a young age and been strong enough to let go! I am much older and still in the give give part of the relationship - it is making me hate him and be suspicious most of the time - Others say I am so beautiful and a wonderful woman but he always makes sure to remind me of some reason I have failed him - Oh enough about me - It is gonna be difficult but you are definately on the right track - the fact that you have moved on is great and you are finding yourself happy and care about yourself. The sadness however, will take time to get thru - you may want to consider counseling if possible or at least know that you are vulnerable. I was in a horrible marriage then divorced that was a give give too - Why wouldnt you want to give all to someone you love? Problem is they dont appreciate it when they realize you are gonna be there so the break is what is needed - Good Luck You are Smart for sure - let your friends know how you are feeling and know that you did what was best for you and if any consolation - Know that you have had the courage to move on fairly quickly and not waste too much time on it - You are still young - I would advise chalking it up to experience and to be more aware next relationship - Take your time on that - I was so lonely that I hopped into something not after enough time and am repeating the pattern even after many friends and therapist told me I was not ready - Take Care!
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reader, lyd_foster +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Well you have obviusly got your head screwed on rigt because you are going out and enjoying yourwelf with mates
that is the hardest part
so you are almost there! =]
of course its going to hurt you will think that you have wasted 2 years of your life on nothing.
but we learn from our mistakes and know you know when to spot a relationship that isnt going to do good for you.
If you arnt over him fully then get yourself busy
get realy into college, take up a new hobby like reading painting ruinning, joing clubs with friends.
and just got out and enjoy life realy.
This boy wasn't worth your time
Good luck
=]
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