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writes:Basically, I've been with this guy for nearly 4 months now, and I am head-over heels for him. We used to spend so much time together, but then I went away for a couple of weeks. When I came back, he seemed distanced from me, we used to see each other every day, now I'm lucky if I see him at all. Then last night I heard that apparently he no longer has feelings for me anymore, although I was his first time and we both cherished eachother. Im so confused, I dont know what to do.. Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Typical'Ox +, writes (20 July 2008):
Typical'Ox is verified as being by the original poster of the question I heard it from some-one that over heard people taking, its probabley not true, but al the signs are there, for example, I have tried on several occaisions today to call he and he hasn't answered. He never ever called me when I was away for the two weeks, he could see me everyday on my lunch breaks, but fails to do so even when we arrange it.
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reader, Typical'Ox +, writes (20 July 2008):
Typical'Ox is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI heard it from some-one that over heard people taking, its probabley not true, but al the signs are there, for example, I have tried on several occaisions today to call he and he hasn't answered. He never ever called me when I was away for the two weeks, he could see me everyday on my lunch breaks, but fails to do so even when we arrange it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2008): Hey ya,
It is sad when relationships fade away like this, but unfortunately that is how a lot of relationships end. I don't know if it is any consolation but I think anyone who has really loved as been in your situation and has felt as confused, lost and in pain as you are now, but all have recovered and moved on to much better and happier times - just like you will.
I am not saying your feelings aren't real and strong, but I can say 4 months is so little a time for a relationship and you will certainly get through this and even if things don't work out for you both, you will get through the other side and feel much better about it all.
It is very, very rare to ever find a long term committed relationship on your first go, instead it takes a good few relationships until you get a good sense of what does and doesn't work for you in a relationship. Some people take decades to find the right relationship, but a failed relationship never has to mean the next relationship will be any less special or meaningful.
You sound really in to this guy, but I think maybe if you are honest with yourself, or maybe in some time, you will start to question things that happened, and times that he wasn't the right and perfect boyfriend for you and you'll probably be glad how things worked out.
Try and get some resolution on it all so you know one way or another if the relationship is going to carry on. If it isn't working out then end it, and get on to getting over it all, after all, you want to be with a guy who is totally in to you, you deserve nothing less! No matter what happens, give all of it some time and I am certain you will start to feel more certain about it. Remember that confused and upset states are only temporary and that you will feel better.
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