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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:hello all.. we have been in a long distance relationship for 4yrs.. both of us are from india and work in US in different cities. we are thinking of getting married soon. i have always wanted to go back to india after 2-3yrs but my boyfrend wants to stay here for probably another 7-8yrs.. i have tried talking to him about this but according to him i should support him in his career goals and stay here. but for me i know i wouldnt be happy staying here for such a long time.. so i am not sure what to do? should i sacrifice my needs and get married and stay here or should i leave him? and we both cannot stay without each other.. also we discussed who would move so that we could be together and in the end it was supposed to be me.. so i just feel compromised in every way and feel that we are doing everythng that he wants and nothing that i.. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): I think that you should never have to sacrifice what you want and what you need to fit someone else's life. Doing so, in the long run, could result in you resenting him and that is never good. of course, leaving him could be extremely hard and a terrible experience. clearly you want to be with him, and if he wants to be with you then eventually i think that things will work out, regardless of where the two of you are in space.
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