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male
age
41-50,
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writes:Please help me help myself. I've been going out with this girl for quite some time (2 years). We are bf and gf. Just recently she asked me to look for something in her phone and I came across a text message I wasn't too happy about. It was apparently from a "male friend" of hers from the past. But the message wasn't what you would expect from an old friend. She said it was normal for such messages and she just ignores them. But these inappropriate messages are very disconcerting. She has never lied to me about anything before and I know all her friends male and female. I am not the jealous type at all since we are both in a trusting and committed relationship. But this situation has me questioning my trust in her. I've dealt with a very similar situation in the past only to find out the ex was cheating on me with the guy who messaged her. Now I know I shouldn't compare her with the past but I can't help myself. I feel like it's happening all over in front of my eyes. I find myself losing my trust in her more and more everyday. We were perfect until this. I was going to introduce her to the parents and everything and take it to the next level. Now i'm just hurt. I can't understand why she didn't tell me about this guy before. We are very open with each other and we even let each other know if we get hit on at work or boys/girls night out. I have never cheated on her and to my knowledge she hasn't either. Now she tells me the guy is just a stalker and they hung out a few times and nothing happened. I just wonder if there is more to this "friend". She did say she was going to cut all ties with him after we spoke. I just can't understand why a guy would send such messages knowing that she's in a committed relationship and why she wouldn't respond with something harsh if she did receive such unsolicited messages for about a year now? Half of our relationship!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): I have done the same thing to my boyfriend...i swapped numbers with a guy at work and he regularly txts me...some of it innapropriate. luckily my bf doesnt know and i delete the txts.My reason for txting and having a harmless flirt is because im an insecure person and when i get some nice attention from a man it makes me feel good.However i would NEVER cheat on my bf.From the mans side he obviously doesnt care if she is in a relationship or not...most men..not all just want a woman for 1 thing she is probably trying his luck with her. Hopefully she has good morals and wont do anything with him.You seem like a nice caring guy-so im sure u treat her right. Sometimes women seek a sense of adventure.
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