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writes: Someone please help me. I dont want any of you Men to brand me as another silly woman getting her knickers in a twist about nothing and I dont want any of you women to just say Im right hes wrong, I need to know other women feel the way I do and that all men are the same! (Maybe that sounds stupid!)The prob is, a few motnh ago I wrote to say I had caught my boyf about to masturbate over a page 3 girl in the bathroom, I had been sleepy, after his many attempts to entice me he had given up and headed for the shower whilst I slept (so i thought). Anyway I hate the thought of him looking at the page 3, I have twice caught him looking at some links for porn websites (but to be honest he aint that clued up on using the net so wouldnt know how to get much further I imagine!) which also upset me but he just did the usual boys will be boys and we are all curious(he is 28 years old by the way) and it doesnt mean he loves me less blah...I do believe noys will be boys, all men look at porn right? All men have their little fantasies even when in a happy long term relationship with a healthy sex life right? Thing is he put some newspapers out for re-cycling but removed the page 3 from them to keep hold of before doing so!!!!!!!! I noticed when he was at work and he just says he liked the look of them and thought; 'Oh, Ill keep hold of them three..I wont be buying the paper for a few days...' !This has really hurt me, I hate him looking at them at the best of times but to remove page 3 specifically like he cant live without them until he gets the paper again! I dont feel betrayed like he loves me any less or prefares them to me its just the thought of him masturbating over them when Im not here, it seems so seedy and wrong - I know men are men but why why why!!? Men all over the world do this yeah? Other women have experienced the same issues in their relationships? Please if you have let me know, I need re-assurance or something! I love this guy so much, we have been together 3 years and recently we have had some of the best times of our lives! I dont want to leave him but I dont want to feel like this anymore either..R xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2006): Hi R,
I think you are blowing the whole event out of proportion. I am a guy myself and judging by the way you state that he tried to entice you many times I can sympathise with your BF a bit. Sounds like he was very horny and you gave him the cold shoulder, men unlike women cannot just turn off the lust once they are in the mood, it drives us crazy! Remember guys masterbate from early on in their lives and it just becomes part of their life, like eating or drinking. Just because he is mb to a page 3 pic or three does not mean he loves you any less. Sometimes women have difficulty understanding mens feelings (yes we do have them too!), and misunderstand our sexual drives. I would suggest you keep an eye out for his sexual advances more and treat him to more sex, he definitly seems keen. Experiment a bit, give him a hjob, bjob, do a striptease, play with yourself in front of him, whatever to refocus his sexual outlet on you. Trust me never neglect a male partners sexual drive or else trouble will follow. Nip it in the bud now and show him just how hot you can be for him.
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reader, Joe  +, writes (5 January 2006):
i said it once in a earlier post my girlfriend is my ultimate fantasy, i don't get attracted to any page 3 girls i'm happy to keep on going without paying it much attention, have i looked at porn? of course! do i still look at now? no!, to a certain extent alot of women have watched porn aswell it's not only men who watch it you know!
what your partner is doing in my opinion is wrong because if your sex life is great i see no reason he should be masturbating over page 3 girls, and if you wanna hear something crazy i've actually stoped masturbating as my girlfriend says she don't like me doing it and recently she has physically opened up so i've had no reason to because my girlfriend is willing to do more with me.
so try and do something you know for sure your partner loves whether it may be seeing you in a skimpy outfit or even walking about the house stark naked or even touching yourself infront of him while moaning his name etc... i'm sure in time if you are to things like that he will be more then happy to burn the apge 3 pics
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2006): i know how you feel, i have the same problem with my man,look even if you ask him to stop doing this he wont he will just try make it more harder for you to see that his doing that trust me i know, i asked my man too stop looking at it instead he just hide it in a new place, and i know it hurts knowing that your man is wacking off to someone else but you know some men just dont think about how it effects the women in there life, all men have fantasies and thats fine women do to, but there is a point when things get taken too fair and when your relationship starts to suffer, because of this then something needs to be done, you just need to tell him how this makes you feel and if he does not stop looking at it then both of you see a councilor or just dump him,or you can be like me and just not give a shit about the relationship anymore.the only way of getting any re-assurance is getting him to stop this beecause you dont deserve to be treated like that, your feelings are being disrespected.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2006): Hi, I understand how your feeling. I hate when my guy even check another girl out. When I ask people they just say men are men and thats what they do. I hate that!!!! Why don't you try:
A: Just having more sex so there is no need for mb
B: Turn it into foreplay
or maybe just asking him not to
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