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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Dear cupids. I need some advice. I have liked this guy for quite a long time now... Over a few years the timing has seemed all wrong. It has generally been that he likes me more than i like him.Last year we had a brief fling, and then his shyness got in the way (he is genuinely socially awkward). He then had a girlfriend for a few months who hurt him.He then started working at the same place ad me, we got on exactly how we used to and i found myself liking him more and more, even though we are both going to very different unis next week.I have tried to discuss how i feel,s omething i find difficult as i struggle to discuss my emotions, but he claims he was drunk and doesnt remember,p. i feel like he has hidden behind his so called 'social awkwardness' so he doesnt get hurt.I have never felt like this but feel i am being pathetic. Is this something i should continue to hope for once we are back from uni or let it go and move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2014): Try and decide how much you truly like him, if he is your 'prince charming' as it were, then stick with and keep warming him around to you.
Otherwise, move on, you're going to meet a whole new world of people at uni and it might seem like a big deal at the time, but everyone is going through the same thing and you have to make the decision of whether he is worth giving up new opportunities for.
At uni, both of your confidences will grow, he might come out of his shell or he might just avoid people, but from knowledge of my first year at uni, my confidence flourished and before I arrived, I was extremely socially awkward, now I involve myself in things with people I've never met, things like societies and sports.
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reader, devont +, writes (19 September 2014):
 I think you should try and move on.
If he liked you back, he wouldn't let 'social awkwardness' get in the way, especially as you've already had a fling and he is confident enough to have had a girlfriend...
When you're at uni, you'll meet loads and loads of new, interesting people you like more and I would be willing to bet doesn't even cross your mind once.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 September 2014):
 Perhaps move on. He was not too socially awkward to have a fling with you , and to have a regular gf, then. I feel that if he had feelings ( or an interest ) for you, the ice is already broken and he would be more responsive.
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