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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been dating for over a year now and in the begining it was great... it just didn't stay that way for long. We are now off and on as it seems and him and I are both tired of it. We love it when we're together..or at least I do. When we're not together or when we haven't talked for awhile I tend to miss him so much I struggle with keeping busy so I don't call him. (I don't think he likes it when I'm clingy with him.)He tells me he loves me but I always tend to doubt it. I've had some hard times by myself because hes always too busy to answer the phone. Of course this hurts me even more and I get mad at him. So my question is if anyone has any ideas that will help me be less attached to him because it'd help alot. I think it'd be better if we broke up for good but I don't think I can handle that right now.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (18 December 2010):
 The next time you meet, before you leave, arrange when you will see him again. During that space, keep yourself busy. Then when he rings you , you can either be in or out. You both are in that void between courtship like it can be becoming stale or routine, mundane. You are at the age where you might be ready for the next step of going forward in your life on the next level, could be living together or something else. It's still not a very long time really a year and you are still learning about each other. There just needs to be something else in place for you both to keep it interesting. You could always book a weekend away or a holiday. Sometimes a change of scenery can spark of heart to heart talks.
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