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It feels like we're only together so that he doesn't upset me, and it's weird...

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Question - (27 March 2005) 1 Answers - (Newest, 29 March 2005)
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I've been seeing this boy for over a month and lately he has been different, like distant. I worry too much and it gets on his nerves, as he has a lot on his mind and I totally understand and I want to be there for him.

Then today, out of nowhere, he said that he thinks that he's getting on my nerves and that he thinks that we should finish. I managed to convice him I didn't want to finish, but it still feels weird. I'm worried that he doesn't want to be with me and is only with me so he doesn't upset me!

wWat should I do?

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A female reader, Wendyg United Kingdom +, writes (29 March 2005):

Wendyg agony auntIt does depend on what these other problems he has are. Maybe he needs some space. Perhaps there is too much going on right now for a relationship. You need to talk about what's happening and face up to it. Unless these other problems are addressed, a relationship is just complicating things, and making you both unhappy by the sound of it.

Perhaps you need to spend some time apart and think about what's going on. The longer this goes on, the harder it will be on the both of you. Talk about it, try to iron out the probs. If not, it's time to move on. Life is too short to be unhappy!

If he's too distant perhaps he had found someone else. Hard as it sounds, you need to talk, there is no point begging him to stay so to speak, as in the long run you are both going to get help. The key is to talk it over and take things slowly until you both know what you want.

Hope this has been of some help.

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