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30-35,
*weetthing
writes:Hey all, I have posted before about a guy at work. And i took on board people's views e.g that he is being friendly and that work relationships aren't really a good path to go down because all the problems. But there's been a update and would appreciate your opinion.Since friday, monday and yesterday (tues) I have been really professional to this colleage call him Mr D. No flirting and just professional even with the stares!Finally mid day he came sat next to me. we both sittng next to eachother he has got plenty space. he knocks his knee into me. I just don't say nothing. he knocks it harder. i move my leg a little. he moves it more harder. i just blush. I said you have got nice aftershave he said not wearing none but there were people around;. then later outide talking about a case and he purposely says is "leah"(fake name) in to this person. who said no she doesnt work monday he knows that cuz they been there ages. and he was looking at my facial experssions. This was the same female he asked up into our room for a minute after i was talking about this fit guy. It is like he tries making me jealous.But there's this female at work and when me and him talk she keeps trying to get in the middle. Today she kept referring to "balls". We all went out for a walk for lunch he kept trying to stand next to me. I did a little bit but i moved to. She was just in a strop and he walked with her a bit. I'm so confused. It doesn't feel like a crush it feels two sided!!!! I just want people's honest opinions!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2012): Actually OP sounds like he's using you to both make the other woman jealous and to stroke his ego.
OP this is why you don't get involved with guys at work. He's playing both of you against each other now for an ego stroke.
He has you gushing over him, blushing, letting him jam his knee into you and standing next you all with the intention of teasing you, he does this in front of the other girl as it visibly makes her upset, he does the same kind of thing in front of you too.
You may think it's two sided but this guy is very obviously playing games and it's going to get messy OP. You keep playing the jealousy game with him in front of the other woman and she's very quickly going to turn sour against you. All the while this guy gets to have a laugh and watch the two of you battle it out for his attention.
You're reading this what you hope is the case OP, you're seeing what you hope it is but it's not. He's playing games, building up the sexual tension with two women in the office and enjoying every minute of it. You on the other hand are getting sucked into something that may well end up making working there a living hell.
You really don't want a jealous female colleague OP especially when she thinks you're stealing this guy from her. A woman scorned at work is a demon that can and will make life hell for you. People will start to talk about things, they'll think you're sleeping with him to get ahead or just another one of his office flings.
Seriously OP look at his behaviour, you'd expect this kind of immature crap from a teenager not a grown man who is interested in you. This is just a bit of fun for him and why not? He has two suckers eating out of hand, hanging on every word he says, staring at him, reacting to his games and they think it's cute.
I have to say while he is a sleaze I like his style. He may well have already boned that other office worker and he'll probably bone you too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2012): By the sounds of it, he likes you but he's not sure on how you feel. You should flirt back and see how it goes. If he doesn't respond, then stop. There's no harm in trying :) please help me with my question? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/-how-do-i-start-speaking-to-him.html
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 November 2012):
 If you feel it is two sided well then go with your gut. If you really like him then talk to him and see what is going on, yes work relationships sometimes are never a good idea, but you should follow your gut instinct, and if it is telling you that there are feelings on both parts here well then don't ignore it.
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