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*aelynbroken
writes:my babyfather just broke up with me over the phone a lil while ago.. but he does this every day! then after i cry and he yells calls me names and sometimes hits me in person he will get back with me. im really stupid cause i just cant get over the fact that i love him but he treats me so bad! i really do want to get over him but it hurts so bad especially thinking about him with someone else.. plus we have a beautiful 10 month old babygirl together. i dont want to do this alone.. i wish i was stronger so i could give him a taste of his own medicine but it always ends up me begging for him back. help please ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2011): He obviously likes to use you as a doormate. You need to get up and leave he knows that you have no dignity and selfworth and plays on it. You give men the license especially him to do what he is doing. It doesn't get better but worst. You have to believe in youself and stop begging him back. Rule of thumb he knows he has you where he wants you and knows you will give in. As hard and difficult it may seem get your things and leave that dirt bag!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2011): you don't love him, you're just so low in self esteem that you're obsessed with trying to win him over because when he treats you nice it makes you feel better about yourself. and also because you don't want to be alone. But this isn't love, far from it. It's desperation and clinging to him because he's the only one who's there at the moment. you need to write him off and find a better man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2011): YOu put up with it because it was taught that is what love is but its the cycle of abuse. No healthy woman from a loving home STAYS with an abusive monster. THEY RUN!!
Your BF even has the traits of a sadistic abuser. He learnt that from somewhere as well.
I want you to do the best thing you can do for yourself and your child- RUN! Seek refuge. Start asking for shelter or help from trusted friends or family or local church groups.
Get counselling and get an education. The BEST way to overcome and put an END To ABUSE and give your child a healthier, safer childhood and teach her there is more to this life than abuse.
Be Strong. Be that loving Mother you have in you to be. Draw from within and stand up with courage. You can overcome this dark moment. It can and does get better but you have to do it!
http://www.sashabruce.org/programs/show/safe-homes/teen-mothers-program
http://www.shym.ca/contact-us
http://www.loveisrespect.org/
You do not have to be alone. There are many agencies to help you. YOu have to start making calls, email agencies.
http://www.bridgewayhomes.org/
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RRGfxfOVm70&feature=bf_prev&list=FL5jDf_8t0f55stZX6jgPYwg&lf=bf_play
I know, understand and have overcome childhood horrors myself. It is a very bright future that you can have so long as you ACT.
You can do it. I know you can. If anything, we can endure and overcome. You already put in x years as a solider. Push on.
*HUGGGGSSSS*
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2011): Theres a break up website called baggage reclaim.com. It's really helpful. Good luck. You don't need so much drama. He should focus on your baby and getting along with you.
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