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anonymous
writes:Hi I need some advice. Well I met this guy last weekend, we seemed to hit it off and he's since added me in facebook. Yesterday I thought seeing as he'd been the one to add me, I should be the one to start a chat and he appeared to be online.So I sent him a friendly "hey what's up? How did you go after the weekend?" sorta thing and he didn't respond right away but he did within an hour, apologized for the late reply as he was currently at work but continued to speak to me during his shift and after. He ends his message with a "chat to you soon :)", so I'm thinking that he's obviously inviting future conversations.This afternoon I asked him something in relation to the end of our previous conversation and the response was jokey and cute enough then he asked how my day was. I asked how his day was, he replied, I replied and now nothing, I can see that he saw my message too. His responses generally have a few "haha"s in them, and he probes for more information and he makes reference to things we talked about on the night we met. I don't get it....I don't want to bother him by sending him another message but at the same time I just wonder if maybe I should throw one last bone and then maybe just leave it to him? I mean he seems like he might be interested in me judging by the tone of the conversation, and the fact that he risked his job by messaging me during his shift, but is he playing it a bit cool?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (12 October 2013):
 He might be shy and waiting for a few more hints so he's sure that it's safe to ask you out. If you like him too why not suggest more things to do in the weekend? It's easier to show your liking when you are face to face. Next time you meet you will be clearer whether he is a friend or more potential than that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2013): Learn to play ball. Throw one, and he'll catch. He'll throw one, and you'll catch. If you don't want to scare a man away, play it casual.
Don't always think that a connection is always leading to a relationship. Go with the flow and enjoy the game.
Some people think too far ahead of where things are going; get antsy, and mess it all up. Don't start making presumptions before you have all the facts.
He doesn't have to act over-enthusiastic to be interested. He's playing it cool; so you won't get too far ahead of the game. Let him woo you. Find out how interested he is; but don't be so/too eager. It will start to show, and he'll bail.
He isn't proving anything one way or the other by how much he texts you. Women put way too much weight on that, and as a man, I'll say bull!!!
If a guy asks you out and wants to spend time with you, look for that. You want to know how a guy thinks, ask a guy. Text messaging is just a convenience; not a tool used to measure a person's feelings.
If only it was that simple. Some people get text message fever and will text you 24/7; because they like to text; or they're bored with nothing better to do. It doesn't mean they like you.
If you pay $600.00 for a smartphone, you use it. Don't over-use it! It isn't a gauge of your feelings, it's a communication device and a toy. For many it's a tracking device and a lie-detector. That's ridiculous.
Keep busy, stay casual, and if he doesn't "text you" to your satisfaction; move on to greener pastures. He testing
you. Some may think this is being sexist; but I know what I'm talking about. The number of posts on the same subject by women bear out my theory.
Actions speak louder than text messages. Let him show you his real game. Not how much he can match you at texting.
Yes he is playing it cool. He's taking it one step at a time. It keeps things in proper perspective.
What's the rush?
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