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writes: I recently broke up with girlfriend of 6 months(I'm bi). The breakup had to happen (towards the end I felt as lonely with her as I did alone), but my gf and I used to spend a lot of time together and now I don't know what to do with that time. Lately I've been feeling kind of bored, lonely and sexually pent up. I want to get out, have fun and enjoy being single again, but it feels like I've forgotten how! : I live in a small town where there isn't much to do, and people are kind of surly sometimes. It sucks. This might sound dumb, but, any advice on how to get my life back??
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010): Well the best way to fill that time you normally would've spent with her is to find friends. We are naturally social beings. We need social outlets to turn to for fun, support, company, advice, to talk with, laugh with, whatever. It is no wonder you feel lonely since you haven't had that since the break up. The best way to make friends is to put yourself out there and be open. I just moved to a new city, for instance, I didn't know a soul. Well except for my cousins but they and I have pretty much nothing in common (felt lonely myself hanging with my cousin like you felt with your ex). So I got a job. I have since made friends at work, I have a boyfriend too, I have a life. It is awesome. Its so nice that now I have friends I can have wine with on Saturday nights, I can have coffee with on afternoons, watch movies, go out party. Its nice.If you already have a job and even there can't meet people, then get involved in something that you like that other people like too, that you might share common interests with. Yoga, kickball league, a dance class. You'd be surprised how many people might feel like you do too. You have no idea how many people I have met who are in the same boat. New in town, no friends, looking to meet people. You'd be surprised. I took a dance class upon moving here and met two girls just waiting for the class to begin who had the same story as me, saying they wanted to meet people, didn't know anybody. Its not uncommon, so don't worry. And try to be happy and positive. People are drawn to other people who are happy and positive. No one likes a grouch or someone who is always venting about their problems, etc. And be outgoing. Say hi to your neighbors, be friendly with the local baker, grocers, whatever. Get in the habit of talking with people, saying hello, that is how you meet people and start feeling like you are part of the community. So get out there!! You can do it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2010): Is there any bars or clubs in your small town? You could go out for the night all dressed up.
If not can you travel to the nearest big town and stay in a hotel for the night. Go out and come back feeling refreshed!!
Or you could take up something like jogging where you will feel tons better and get a really hot body that your ex will miss
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