A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello, Okay. I am a female and have a best friend (also female) that I am living with. We have been besties for 4ish years now, even through a period when we lived in different states. We have been through a lot together and always consider each other in our futures. We often joke that one of us should have been born a guy because we would be married with children by now. We are not afraid to hold hands in public and often crack lesbian jokes about ourselves, yet we are both straight and have dated only guys. Needless to say we were platonic soulmates.That was until we got drunk at home one night. We were cuddling and passing out on the couch when she kissed me. I was freaked at first but went with it. In the morning we didn't talk about it and then a week later it happened again, yet it went further. This past weekend I found myself wanting it to happen again, I just love being close to her but im so scared and we never talk about what happened afterwards.We only 'mess around' after we have been drinking, and I need to note that I have never been attracted to girls before, and I am not physically attracted to my friend I just like BEING with her. I know its normal for college aged students to 'experiement' but this just seems different because I love her so much and it means more than that yet at the same time (this sounds bad but) I don't want to be bisexual or a lesbian.In conclusion I don't have a specific question, however I just want to know if doing this with my best friend is wrong or unhealthy and what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): *UPDATE*
Last night when we were laying in my bed (she often sleeps with me) she kissed me again. We made out; completely sober and then our cat came inbetween us and meowed. We laughed and then it was silent for a while.
I got my nerves up and asked her "is this weird?" she said no and we discussed how our friendship is really unique.
Maybe this is just weird for me because im kind of a prude and I don't let anyone touch me except for her.
Im still not in anyway attracted to girls and I have a crush on a guy as does she, so it still seems weird but in a way, okay.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (8 March 2010):
 The only way I could see this being unhealthy is if it were to put your friendship at risk. Since she initiated, and you're obviously OK with it, your friendship is probably safe. Although the fact that it's never mentioned is a bit worrisome -- sounds like a guilty elephant in the room. You'd probably be safer to communicate.
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