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writes:There was this girl that liked me and thought i was funny. The thing is, I would copy funny phrases from one of my friends and repeat them to her to make her laugh. She liked me a lot until I started to run out of those things to say. Then the real quiet me came out and started not knowing what else to say cause I used every joke I could think of that my friend has told me in the past. Then I noticed she started getting bored with me cause the real me came out. I'm such a quiet person and absolutely NO girl knows the real me because I have severe social anxiety and will never be myself around girls. Because of this there has never been a single girl that likes me based on my personality. They think I'm kinda cute at first glance, but when they get to know me all interest goes out the window. What I mean by them getting to know me is that they find out I never talk and make a lot of awkward silences.I'm an 18 year old male Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso I fake laugh at A LOT of things that other people find funny that I don't. I do this because I don't want people to think I'm boring. But I get tired of fake smiling like I find things funny, when I don't
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah I do try really hard and constantly fake. Whenever someone says something I try and think of something that would be funny and say it and often times it's forced and people don't laugh at it. It's unnatural. I never was like this until my teenage hormones started going crazy at age 15.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 March 2013):
 yeah you have to be yourself. that does not mean you have to be the life of the party or that you have to tell jokes or be outgoing.
my husband is not one for social events... he has never told a joke in his life.... he's happy to just sit and be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2013): OP you're putting too much importance into jokes as a means to impress a woman.
Let them get to know what you have in common by finding out their interests and talking about yours. Similar taste in music or movies are excellent talking points. My fiancée and I have video games in common too. We both love discussing history, watching documentaries on prisons, nature etc.
Do you want them to fall in love with your reused jokes or you as a person? Then you have to let them get to know the real you. Plus OP it's far, far easier to talk about the things you know and love than it is to keep up a pretence, no wonder you find it hard to relax around people if you constantly feel the need work hard to fake it. OP people are more impressed by the things you do and the person you are than they are about the jokes you make.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 March 2013):
 So how do you spend your spare time? What are your passions? There's nothing more interesting than a person who has an interesting hobby or passion and who wants to share it with others.Why do you think you developed social anxiety and what steps are you taking to deal with it?
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