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*razyKandy
writes:I just met a guy about three months ago. We've been hanging out and having fun with maybe a little flirting here and there. We went to a party once, I got very drunk, he didn't but he decided to make out with me. The next evening when we were alone in his apartment, we took it to the last level, and after, he said he was "driven by lust and desire and didn't want anything more". I was kind of ok with it, but it left me so confused. He let me know that we are gong to be seeing a lot of each other in the near future. I like him and he seems to like my personality, but what would you call our relationship? I want to talk to him about it, but I don't know if he would feel comfortable enough. I want to know if there's a chance we can get intimate again, no strings attached, hopefully. Should I talk to him about it, or just let time play this one out?
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reader, KrazyKandy +, writes (9 September 2009):
KrazyKandy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much! It makes a lot of sense. We stopped. I vowed to myself that I would never "hook up" with anyone again. It's not worth it, and somewhat painful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): If you dont have a relationship with him, then it's definitely FWB, you have to be careful with this kind of relationship though, One of you may develop feelings for the other, but the other doesn't. It's complicated, but if you two are mature enough then why not enjoy the moment. it's not gonna last forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): Don't the kids call it "hooking-up" no strings attached sex, that is what your relationship is.
As far as friends with benefits you would actually have to be spending time together doing some other things and having benefits once in awhile.
This is a great deal for the guy, sex with no attachment or responsibility towards you, but it is a terrible deal for the girl and here is why: women because of their bioligy are hard-wired to bond emotionally to a man they are having sex with, you will develop feelings for him and he on the other hand will go home and not give you a second thought until he wants to have sex again with you.
It can be a hurtful situation for the both of you, so it's up to you, but I am sure if you talked to him about it he would be open to it, but don't expect to be treated with a whole lot of respect from this guy over time....another bad deal.
Take care of yourself.
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