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female
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41-50,
*abarc1
writes:My ex bf and i dated for 5 years and were engaged for 2. I called our wedding off because i was not ready and wanted to take some time apart to make sure. We were fighting all the time over stupid stuff. Of course this devastated him and was terribly hard on me as well. We still hung out for 5 months and then he started seeing another girl and of course he had no sympathy for my tears (don't blame him) and told me that he was gonna move on i was to do the sameAfter 3 months i started going NC because i realized i would never heal if i kept any kind of contact with him. He also started being nice to me again, before he was so cold and looked like he couldn't stand the sight of meWell after those 3 months he has broken NC by texting me (which i ignored) and when the 5 month mark came (since he had been seeing that girl,basically living with her), he sends me a $200 gift card and baked me a pumpkin pie cause he knew how much i like it, which i tried to give it all backHe tells me how he still likes taking care of me, he hasn't thrown any of my stuff away because he doesn't RULE ME OUT and knows what we had was special, he even kissed me that day i tried to return the gift!! I told him not to give me any gifts anymore because he lost all rights to do that and he said "ok, until ur bday" and i said "NO"!! He complained about how he really likes taking care of me and blah blah blah. Who wants to take care of their ex when in a new relationship, how can you honestly be in love with the new girl??Someone please tell me how this is considered MOVING ON????? I'd be very worried and pissed if i was his new gf and found out he gave his ex a $200 xmas present, kissed her, and has the mentality of there being a chance they might get back together. I mean a person shouldn't be in a relationship if they don't rule out their ex right???? I've told him to throw the stuff i've given him away since he's moving on, and he won't have any reminders of me (teddy bears, pictures, letters etc.) He says he doesn't want to because he doesn't rule "us" out. It's not like they are stored away, but in his room on display (well the pics are face down, but still they are right there!!)That was my only relationship so i'm new to this and i'm 26. Is he moving on???? Is he just wanting to see if the grass is greener?? Or is he just a dog??? Keep in mind, i called the wedding off but he is the one that jumped into a new relationship and wanted to MOVE ON supposedly. I don't blame him for being angry wanting to go out with another girl. I'm just confused because if i'm so horrible for calling off a wedding, then why does he bother wanting to take care of me and if he was truly moving on...wouldn't he just be DONE with me???
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2009): You called off the wedding and your relationship?
No wonder he's confused.
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