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36-40,
anonymous
writes:hi.. my ex boyfriend who i have a child to and we are still really close has just recently told me hes bisexual and has feelins for men ? i was wondering if anyone else has had this happen to them or been in the position and can give me any advice...is this the end for us ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): I think admitting bi-sexuality is a brave thing to do. I don't agree with it but can understand how hard it must have been and I admire anyone who can overcome fear.
I think I would feel betrayed by such a revelation. How long has he known he had this desire? Can he be trusted?
I think what you are feeling is valid.
Sexual orientation and expectations are a big deal and should be discussed before getting into an intimate relationship. Honesty on all fronts is always the best policy.
I think if he can remain faithful and if he can be devoted to you and only you is what you really want to know. Any person regardless of sexual desire is capable of this.
You want a commitment of fidelity and this new reveal threatens this.
Feel your feelings, express them. It is fair to say I feel betrayed by this. I feel like I have been mislead by who you are. I am angry and I am hurting. I don't know how to deal with this. What does this mean to me? To us?
Prepare yourself Love. There may be no happy ending for you and him. It may be you love him and have devoted your heart, mind, body, soul to him and it is not reciprocated.
I wish the best for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): no i am not homophobic! me n him are still as close as ever we have been for the past 4 years when i say EX i dont mean we dnt see each other we r still apart of eachothers life and we still love eachother just not in love with eachother and know we know that it wasnt working because he was hidin his secret and couldnt tell me as he didnt want to hurt me....i was askin is this the end for us ? meaning is there no chance we would ever be able to make it work again? i was lookin for advice for any1 else in the same situation and how they felt..coped..? i have been here for him through all this and TOTALY accept him but as i said i love him and dont want this 2 mean we have no chance together...i should have explained more in my first question.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): "...is this the end for us ?"No, you will be a part of his life for the rest of yours, because of the child.But anyway, you said EX boyfriend, so what's your problem? Are you homophobic? Why would it be the end just because you're homophobic? I don't get it.Need more info.
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reader, jo158 +, writes (8 September 2007):
Unfortunatly there is no simple answer for this question its not the end hes still the father of your child its a changing world people are getting more and more confortable with sexuality you can still be friendsif you feel comfortable you have to ask yourself if you feel comfortable with him as he is.i hope this is help take carex
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