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41-50,
*ikeythekid
writes: My girlfriend has had sex with 6 people. I'm lucky number 7. While this number doesn't concern me too much, the fact that five of these people were within a 6 month period does give me pause. this occurred her last 6 months of college after breaking up with her first boyfriend (two year relationship ) she ended up dating the last guy for 3 years and then started dating me. Is this sort of spree common in girls? I know college ( or high school for some) can be a wild time but is this over-the-top behavior? have many girls had this phase in their sexuality?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2010): Who cares what is common? There are tons of common backstories that I still consider to be huge red flags. Do you respect her choices or not? Are you concerned about how she chose you and whether she takes you seriously? Would you do the same thing in her place? These things are what matters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): Spree? Come on Potsie get out of the 50's. Think of it this way.. she only had 6 partners before you, end of story. I had 6 different partners in one week last winter. I'm 22 and lost count around 140 partners ago, and that was about a year ago. I've been with about 20 different guys this year so far. Most girls tell their boyfriends 1/2 the actual number of guys they been with.
BTW.. I always use protection. I am clean. So what if I have had a lot of guys inside me? I am still the same person. What if I used a dildo instead of the real thing? My roommate has a collection of 10 or so and uses a different one almost every day. If you were dating my roomate would you feel that she was on a spree with her dildo collection too? Have you ever used a fake vagina? Does that count as a partner? If it feels good, then so what?? Stop overanalyzing this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): I dnt know. I'm 19 and I have had 8 partners, in which I'm not at all proud of. But that's like a woman looking at a man's history of maybe 10, 12 or even more. Maybe her having 7 partners doesn't make her happy but it might make her want to change her ways. Maybe you should just let it go. You're her current partner, so be happy you are. The past is history, so put it in the back of your mind. And dnt ask her about it, it may upset her, or it may not. Either way, don't risk it. If she feels the need to talk to you, then she will when she's ready.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): I know girls who have done that at 15, not what I would recommend lol.
I think if it's bothering you you could just ask her why it happened.
I think it is pretty normal for
Girls to have a "slaggy phase"
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): You've identified yourself as over 30. If your GF is about your age, and has had teh vast majority in the last 6 months, I'd say that's unusual. Hate to say it, but unless you are WAAAY different, exactly whatever it is she's searching for, or the end of the trend, I'd say you're the guy before #8 in her mind.
I'd get to the bottom of the recent promiscuity. If she won't tell you, forget the idea of anything other than sex. She's searching for something. Love, comfort, a big one...who knows. Not a warm/fuzzy feeling kinda relationship to me.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (28 June 2010):
 Back when I was in college it was fairly routine for a gal to go bonkers for a short time...but it does not last very long. they soon become celabat (guilt?) By the time you've been married a couple of years...it's all over so enjoy it while you can.
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reader, SillyB +, writes (28 June 2010):
 Of course it happens. Women are sexual beings just like men. Just like men, after a break up, women seek comfort too. Some people surround themselves with friends/hobbies, others have a rebound relationship where they take their anger/hurt out in and others sleep around. There are multiple possibilities of what a person does after breaking up with someone. She slept with four people and then found a boyfriend (#6). Sounds like she was hurt and looking for comfort/love/whatever.
You shouldn't judge her on this. I'm sure she learned a great deal and came out of it a good person. One of my Gfs slept with 76 guys after her break up (nuts). After I broke up with my frist boyfriend I went straight into a second relationship. I'm with my 2nd bf and happy. Everyone deals with their hurt differently.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): How does one justify these numbers and variables for males? Is the concern, if any, the same, lesser, or greater? What is your data set?
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