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female
age
51-59,
*harlyMA
writes:I don't know what's wrong with me. I suddenly have no interest whatsoever in physical intimacy. My boyfriend of two years is confused and hurt. We have never had intercourse, because of his own physical limitations, but now I don't even want him touching me in an intimate way. I get kissing over with, with the smallest peck allowable. I feel like my grandmother. I don't even want to cuddle on the couch, watching a movie. I have gained 15 lbs in the past year, and I wonder if that has anything to do with it. Anyway, BF is very upset and hurt and has made it clear that physical intimacy is very important to him, whereas I could easily live the rest of my life without it. What do I need to do? Do I need to find another relationship? I really love this man.I am 43 years old...mother of 4 grown children (youngest is 18), and in the past I have had a very active sex life with my former husbands (married and divorced three times), although alcohol always helped a bit, and I stopped drinking last year when I realized I was having a hard time controlling the amount I drank in one sitting...perhaps another factor? I truly would appreciate any advice or insight anyone has, as this has me in tears.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2013): Your age could have something to do with your hormones changing. You may need to check some of your vitamins/minerals intake. Make sure you have enough zinc in your diet. You could get a naturopath to advise you. I had a friend who took testosterone supplements to bring back the sex in her marriage. There are other herbal supplements that claim to increase women's libido.
Your happiness is a big factor too. Are you unhappy with your weight gain? Do you feel good about yourself? Do you feel good about the way you look? Are you keeping fit and healthy? When we feel good about ourselves, we feel sexy.
This doesn't need to be the way of life for you, but you may need help to sort it out.
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