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writes:I hope I can get some help here because I am getting concern about my feeling towards my fiance. I'm 38 years old and she is 37. She was my classmate back in uni. I was in love with her and she even didn't know that. When I got the ball to tell her she was taken! I was devastated. I never dated anyone eve though I was always getting hit by girls. No one could take her place in my heart. I never saw her until 2 years ago after 13 years I found her single! I remember I cried the whole day, anyway to make a long story short I am deeply in love with her. I am a normal healthy good looking guy with no mental issues but I'm getting concern. This love is so powerful I can get so high like I am drunk without drinking anything by hearing her voice over the phone! I get so turned on by just looking at her picture. I guess I am lovesick but for how many years? She was telling me as we get intimate it all will balance but we did and I still feel the same. I can just give up my life for her. It is normal? should I be concern? Has anyone had the same experience? thank you for your help
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2015): I am the op.Thank you for your help. I feel better now, we live in a crazy world that many valuable things are fading. I value my unique feeling.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (19 May 2015):
 I think that's how it should be. Wonder why not more men are like that. It's because out there many men love shallowly, use women for sex, that you feel you are not normal. You may be afraid to express this, but I assure you, that's what true love feels like.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (19 May 2015):
 That's called euphoria, a mixture of infatuation, gratification, eroticism and desire. So it is normal, at least with my experience with my wife. It isn't a constant feeling but thought of her arouses it or the way you think about her. You should enjoy your euphoria and hope she has one for you in some particular way. It helps keep the bond between you very strong.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (19 May 2015):
 Yep, the first cut is the deepest and it will remain that way for a lifetime. You will never forget the feeling of loss. Sadly, one's first love is usually the one held by the heart with an iron grip.You will however, and this is the good news...slowly realized the world is a huge place and you will find room in that iron grip for yet one (or two) more deep loves. One will be your first born child and the other will be the mother of that child. You must get past this current feeling of helplessness and broaden your search for that mother of your child. Take your time and "shop" for a woman that is a soul mate not just a pretty face. You can share your life with a woman even though your heart is still in pain over "the one that got away" Just breathe and revel in the world around you. never forget the pain you feel now but put it aside so you can begin all over. Good luck. Remember the past but grasp the future with all the gusto. Life is short Live it to the fullest.
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