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writes:My boyfriend tends to be kinda strict in our relarionship. If I do something immature or say something that is immature and dont act my age which is 21 he kinda gets upset with me and asks me why I said that or why I did that. The thing is he is 21 as well, I do think Iam mature but I think that he may be a different kind of mature then me. If I am kinda hyper and loud in public places he doesnt really like that and will be mad at me and not speak to me for a while. I always ask him to speak to me but he says to give him his space, I usually keep pushing more trying to talk to him. He tends to use the phrases: "Well you need to learn from your mistakes that you did" "Me not talking to you will maybe help you think about what you did and those are the consequences that happen when I act the way that I do. Is this normal for a man to be so strict with his girl sometimes but so loving and caring other times?
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (11 August 2008):
 I would keep that short..
YES ... Trust me it's very normal... At this age Guys more often then not are like that..
He would one day ask you Not to go out with friends, the other day he would ask you to go out and freshn us.. That's how we guys are.. It's called being POSSESSIVE. At this age guys seen to Not understand the difference between being possessive and over possessive. It's a phase that would pass.. So, give him time..
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (11 August 2008):
My hubbie had this problem with lots of his girlfriends. They'd get annoyed when he was silly in public and made him think that it was "wrong" for him to act like that at his age.
Then he met me and now we run round the supermarket laughing our heads off at oddly shaped bits of veg.
This guy is trying to change you by giving out punishments that you would give to a 4 year old.
Personally I can't STAND being patronised and would tell him exactly where he can stick his naughty step.
You can stay with him and try and change to fit the model of girlfriend he thinks is right.... or you can tell him that he's a patronising moron and if he wants to find someone boring then he can go and look elsewhere.
All guys can be sweet and loving and caring, that means nothing.
Dump him before you strangle him. OOh it's actually got me angry just reading those phrases. I never suggest violence but he'd have a black eye if he said that to me.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (11 August 2008):
 Let me guess... loving and caring in private? If this is the case, then you're dating a closet control-freak. What you want to do about it is your choice, but I would simply guess that it would get worse, not better, in the future.
...the funny part here is that he's trying to teach lessons to you, but using an immature method of doing so. Rather than being direct, he give you the cold shoulder... definitely NOT a sign of maturity... beware! I can only see this getting worse in the future...
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