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writes:Hi, iam on a dating website for 1 month now i met an Italian man who lives in my city his 49 years old i checked his profile and he checked mine then i started sending him messages like nice photo just normal messages. Actually he was the only man who replied to my messages from the ones i sent messages to. We chat for about 1 week then he disappeared for 2 weeks. Then he came back and told me he had travelled to another city for work. This time i told him i was interested in getting to know him he replied(i can say the same). Now the problem is that he never asks me questions ,he only answers mine and tell jokes. I asked him how he spends the weekend and for the first time has not replied quickly like always. On his profile he does not say what his searching for and nothing about much him. He told his looking for a woman that makes him dream,long and enjoy for all the time together. Now my question is this man serious or just being nice or what. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (5 July 2015):
 I agree with WiseOwlE too.
He is being nice and UTTERLY vague at the same time. Back off and see if he picks up the conversation.
And not saying WHAT he is looking for might mean something, might mean nothing. I'd guess that he isn't looking for a future spouse, but female attention.
Keep looking. If a guy doesn't respond, his loss - move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2015): Thanks for the reply.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2015):
Another very astute reply from wise owl. Don't set all your eggs in one basket as they will get cracked . Instead .. search wide and send happy joking messages to any that you feel suit you . If they answer then that's a bonus if not then their not worth it ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2015): You are correct. He's being nice. You messaged him, and he messaged you back. He has no obligation to stay in-touch, and he probably answers every message he receives. Don't get your hopes up. Stop messaging and let him contact you voluntarily to see if he is actually interested.
Men, love to talk about themselves. So sometimes we don't ask a lot of questions. However; a man who is really interested in getting to know a woman will ask her about what she likes. There are more players and trolls on dating sites than anything else. So don't be too discouraged. Be as choosey and picky as you like. Everyone else is. Don't be overly grateful for just any response.
That guy is a kid in a candy store, and he can contact as many females as he wants. So get used to that on a dating site.
Keep messaging guys who's profiles suit your fancy. Don't set your heart on anyone too soon! Unless he shows you real attention, messages you frequently, asks you what you like, and tells you he'd like to get to know you better; and proves it. Even then, hold back your feelings until you know he legitimately has interest, and he's not playing you along. Move on if your gut tells you he's a jerk.
Good luck, my dear!
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