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writes:I work with a guy who flirts with me all the time. He teases me and is constantly trying to talk to me. He knows I'm interested but told a mutual friend he doesn't feel comfortable dating coworkers. However he did make plans to hang out with me one day And said he was looking foward to it but our plans were cancelled due to the weather. When I hinted we could do something else instead he didn't take me up on it. A few weeks later he heard me saying I needed some work done on my car. He told me I could come over and he would do it for me. I did and when he was done suggested we order a pizza and hang out. He declined and said he had to go help one of his buddies. I'm confused. Is this guy interested or do o need to back off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): Hi thereWhat a situation to be in!Of course I have to ask, is he single?Maybe he doesn't want all and sundry knowing his business at work, or maybe he really is uncomfortable with the co-worker thing.He is obviously trying to be nice to you by helping with your car, but he is also, by his flirting, letting you know that he finds you at least 'fun to be with' or physically attractive, maybe both.Has he actually said anything?, I mean they say actions speak louder than words, when in fact, they can leave you down right confused!Some guys just flirt because it gives them confidence, and some ladies take the wrong meaning from it and end up in a classic 'crush' when this happens.Some men are also very good at this!I think you gave him a chance when you suggested pizza, but he declined saying he had to help a buddy. He could quite easily have suggested another time and place if he wanted to take it further, but he did not. There is a chance that he just likes being around the ladies and having them around him as friends, and flirting is his way of attracting them to him.If all the signals he is giving you are just actions and he continues to not say anything, then I think you need to back off for a while if you are gathering feelings for him.If he wants to pursue a relationship with you, he should be saying something by now, especially as you have been alone at his place, where and when he had every opportunity to arrange a further meeting, or at least tell you a little of how he feels towards you.Don't make the excuse to yourself that he is waiting for you to make a move, you did when you suggested pizza, and he didn't take you up on it.I would back off a little, keep being friendly, and if he wants to pursue you, he will with actual words.Don't put yourself out there for a fall again, once feels bad but twice really hurts.Good luck.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (19 August 2010):
 I think you should never date your co-workers, whatever they feel about you. Suppose something goes wrong in your relationship with him. What would you do?
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reader, Western3589 +, writes (19 August 2010):
 I think he really is uncomfortable with dating co workers, and is trying to figure it out and maybe just be friends for now. Try asking him on another date
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