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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello , 2 days ago i was asking for a solution to my problem . I have some update but let me remind you my story. met a man on a dating site. i contacted him first then he sent me hello message for free. Then he dissapeared for 1 month then suddenly he added me as a favourite and paid money to become a member to send me a message he told me thanks for contacting me and that he would like to meet me soon and talk . So we exchanged emails, photos he even told me to talk to my family about him because he does not want rejection and a broken heart is the worst. So i told them and all were happy for me. So after some time we met for tea he did not care about his appearance at all he looked very unneat. I was more interested in getting to know him more so i did not care much .He told me he took long to contact me cause he thought we had nothing in common and that he was busy travelling back and forth.Then he told me that women always promise you things and never do them. SO I asked him 'do you a problem with women' he answered is that a question or a statement. Then he said i dont want to be hurt.He also told me that people always ask him why he is single at 45 he says i dont need a woman to be complete. He also told me that he had lived with women before and even wanted to get married but he prefered to travel.But his last relationship was bad he said. So he told me that he is travelling for 2 weeks and when he comes back we will see. He even told me to send him emails. But i notice that all the emails he was sending me were general like how is famliy be a good person things like that, and nothing about us. SO he came back and i knew that he had come back a week ago but he did not tell me until i sent him an email He told me enjoy life cause life is short.When i told him that am going through too pain from bad friends he told me move to another country so i decided to call him ,when he saw my number he switched off his phone. Then i sent him an email saying that i had sent him gift he did not answer.So please tell me is this man dishonest or someting else. And if he contacts me again should i respondSo now after calling him and he switched off his phone when i called him. I sent him a bitter letter about how heartless he was and that i will never forgive him.So he replied after 2 days telling me that he doesnt know what iam talking about he was in the mountains where there was no internet or phone coverage thats why he could not answer me and he said if i hurt you iam sorry and he never meant to hurt me.He said that after we met he told me we should just be friends because we live in different cities ,Which Never Happened he told me the first time we met that distance was not problem for him cause he has a branch of his company in my city which he comes to often.He says just because i did not contact you doesnt mean i was not honest .So now he is asking me to forgive him.what should i do.
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reader, ShonaB  +, writes (4 February 2010):
 Is this a man that respects your feelings? Is this a man that puts you first? Is this a man that makes you feel good about yourself? Is this a man you feel you can communicate with?
Whatever else is going on... the above is what even the very very basic relationship should have as a foundation, without it... where does it go? If you don't know the answer to the questions I asked, take some time out and think, being brutally honest with yourself. You will find the answer inside yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2010): This man obviosly doesn't want you. You developed strange attachment to a person that you hardly know. He avoids you, lies to you, and you still contacting him for some reason. Why care if he is dishonest or not, he is a stranger to you, really.
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