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writes:Hi all. Ive just met a guy from my co worker. This guy was accompanying a family to collect something at my work place, so the guy got attracted over me but couldnt come and tell me cause i was very busy then he begged my co worker to give me his number for me to buzz or call him. I was not sure what to do but out of curiosity i called the guy then he came the following day to meet me in person as i have never seen him before. When he arrived to be honest i was not excited cause it was not what i was looking for. His too skinny. Yes he even saw that i was not sure of him but he told me to give it time and give him the answer late that day. We discussed with my cousins and siblings. Their advice was i should give it try as the guy is driving, stable job and it was what i was looking for. The whole thing is i didnt have a spark for him and even to try and pretend i couldnt, but after the advice from family i thought i should try and give it a chance, Then i called him back and told him im going to give it a chance....then we talked and all was fine then he promised to call late and to my suprise he hasnt called even now his fone is off. The thing is i dont know ive developed a little thing for him and not even sure if its love or something. So im wondering if this guy wanted this relation? He was suppose to be happy that i have accepted his proposal and show some enthusiasm but hey his too complicated now. He even said he has two kids age 4 and 6 and he stays with his mum and his not into social media. So im thinking he was looking for a side dish cause this guy has two names and 2 fones and i only have a number that is always off. So im thinking he has another life. So maybe im lucky that i didnt fall in love at the first sight, and im thinking the 'im not on social media it's a game he plays so that we won't find out that he has maybe staying with his woman and kids cause on social media people put their love of their lives so this one is playing hide and seek with the other phone. Im just thinking. Just need an advice that when he called i can just call it quits cause im so confuse or maybe im confused cause im single still searching for the one as i dont have kids or anything that has to do with love.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 February 2016):
 He sounds shady to me. Why would he have two different phones, if he had nothing to hide, he would give you the two numbers. Although it could be that he has a business phone as well. Either way I think you are over reacting very quickly here. You have only just met. Give it some time and see how it goes, if you want to get to know him more then do but don't expect to much from it.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (7 February 2016):
 Rogue or not, this guy is unreliable. There's a few possibilities he didn't call you back. His mom or ex couldn't look after the kids. His mom warned him, if he has money, it should be for the kids, not another woman. Kids first she says. Or he didn't help her out enough or paid rent to mom. Baby mama also restricted what he could do with his dating life, if he didn't pay child support. Having a stable job is a must, not just something you are looking for. With two kids, a man basically needs a doubled stable job. So how does he get time for regular dating?
I don't like the idea that a guy has two phones, and two names too. He also sounds like he has too many things to do in a day, and that stretches himself too thin. Pun intended.
I would not be too quick to say he's a liar, a bad person. Just bad with promises and time management skills. I would instead talk to the coworker who introduced you to him. I would say something like, "Are you serious? You really think we two are a good match? I am single but that doesn't mean I would just take anything."
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