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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Abstract: Guy liked me from the restaurant but I turned him down he retaliates with subtle verbal insults and physical contact (his torso shoulder hitting me hard as he is passing by) and him snatching things out of my hand. So when I first started working at a fine dining restaurant there was this guy who liked me. I thought he was cute too but I'm never too eager to plunge into anything with someone especially a coworker. So we briefly chatted at work. Someone must have told him I was in a relationship bc he started ignoring me when I spoke to him and when he finally did say something to me he asked so how's the family. It seemed after that we were at least on speaking terms. One day I handed a female her clock out card while she was standing near him (a part of my job is to tell who when they can leave by giving them a card), he said wow where's my card I thought we were on the same team. I replied I play both teams, but he took that sexually so when I realized his direction with the information I clarified. After that I thought nothing of it. One day he saw me away from my job and he spoke to me but I only waved (couldn't verbally speak as I was already talking to someone else at that who was giving me directions). A few days go by n I see the male coworker at work, now he's acting funny again not speaking and ignoring me when I speak....cool. So just Friday at the restaurant he was talking to a female coworker and as I was passing by he started talking loudly saying to the female you sure u like men because there are a lot of females out there that play for the other team so I'm just asking. It kind of hurted me bc I felt like he was saying that to get my attention n hurt me. I chalked it up to ignorance with a mix of immaturity and let it be. Later that night he saw me talking to a male coworker and bumped me real hard with his arm and torso as he passed by me. Near the end of the night as I was giving him his clock out card I extended my arm so he couldn't make body contact to hit me and he snatched the card out my hand. I'm not sure if he was just having a bad night with customers or if he was deliberately trying to hurt me. I know he was making very much money that night with so many error orders with his customer food. Ive tried not connecting any of this to anything except coincidence of him having a bad night n it seeming like he's attacking me. Should I be reporting his actions to human resource? I know if I say nothing and if it is random attacks they will continue and worsen. I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt but at the same time I really dislike going to work when he is scheduled.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (16 January 2012):
 Does this guy wear a joker shirt underneath his uniform every day at work? cause he should. mofo sounds like he's a card short of a full deck lol... he sounds quite aggressive, immature, and well, just stupid. Drop by human resources and let them be aware of his actions so far cause if they escalate into something more, chances are they are gonna want a prior report on him in order to do anything about his discipline.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (15 January 2012):
 What an ass! Yes you should report him to your boss and just tell him or her to keep an eye on the situation. He's being very immature and hostile toward you and how dare he treat you like this when it's your free will to like or love whomever you want to. You didn't lead him on, you extended a friendship to him, I'm sorry he got his wires crossed and his big fat ego has gotten deflated. You've done nothing wrong yet he continues to make leud comments and try to embarrass you. The shoulder thing is really crossing the line. That borders on a bit of physical abuse in my opinion. Talk to your boss. Then watch your back and keep your distance. He's no friend anymore.
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