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writes:hello I am a little bit confused with the kind of feelings my boyfriend and I are having for each other, we have been together for 9 months, the first 6 we was living 2 hours away, so we would only be able to see eachother once a week. The last 3 months, I moved closer, (not because of him, I did the move for other reasons), so now we are able to see each other more often, like 2-3 times a week, normally 3, but sometimes 2 because we both have extremelly tight schedules. When we are together everything is perfect, I have a lot of sexual desires towards him, and he is the same way. He is not the kind of guy that all girls want, but for me he is perfect, I like his body just the way it is, and for me he is very sensual. In his case I am his first realtionship, he has always said that he has never liked someone the same way he likes me, and that he has never have the kind of feelings that he has for me. So all what he is feeling is very new for him. He always talk to me about the future, and sometimes he gave me hints that he wants to have a future with me.To give you a better picture, since I move closer, he has gave up time with his friends to been able to be with me, because he doesn't have a lot of free time. I have always been told that I am very attractive, and I do consider myself attractive, I used to be model when I was in college, guys normally like me, my problem here is that even when my bofriend has told me that he doesn't want me just for sex, he has said that if i don't want to have sex with him that is ok. Even when he say those things, I have always been worry if in both cases what we feel for each other is love or just lust. He is a great person, he does everything to please me and he is always concerned about my health because i don't have a good health. I do would like other views about this. I had other relationship previous to this one for 5 years, and I had a lot of feelings for the guy but I didn't had the same sexual intensity that I have for my current boyfriend. So that's why this situation is very new for me. Can someone give me some perspective? spetially guys, but girls are wellcome also. I am 27 and he is 29. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2008): well I am the original poster of this question, our rutine is he normally pick me up, then we go to have dinner and then we come back to my place and we cuddle in my couch for a little while and then we have sex, then we spend some time in my bed, sometimes we fall aslep and we talked, we always have meaninfull conversations, then he leave my place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2008): Just is when you just go SEX SEX SEX all the time.. Watching a movie leads to sex.. whenever you're alone, it's time to have sex.. You keep playing on the back seat of the classroom.. In short, everything you do relates to sex..
But as you've mentioned.. I don't see lust anywhere.. You are in a plain love relationship.. You're probably more COMFORTABLE with this guy and that is why the sexual desire is more..
You're fine.. Just be happy and cool..
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reader, Miss Potter  +, writes (1 November 2008):
 And what is it exactly that you are worried about? I think you have answered your own question, he looks after you and wants to spend more of his time with you. Would he do that if he didnt love you? I dont think so.
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