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writes:ok, iv been dating a guy for just over a month, we get on great, known each other for a while,i feel as though i love him , can this happen so soon?ive told him i love him to bits , and he has replied with the same answer,we can sit just gazing in to each others eyes, we talk about almost anything,we have quite a lot in common,and quite a bit not in common, but those things are a compromise, as im starting to like or try some of those things.and we have fun , we both act like kids , nearly all of the time, its normally me that starts it , but im worried that it may be lust the we are feeling not love as its been such a short time and everythings all new and shiny ...............when i see him, i cant stop the smile forming on my face,when i look in to his eyes, i giggle like a school girl, i get a butterfly feeling inside , when he text me about 3 months ago saying hi gorgeous, my heart fluttered then , as it still did just before we started to go out when he said the tiniest things like "shes a really really good friend of mine " though i wanted more than friendship, that even made me all giddy , i know some people get excited , but im awful (in a good way) for it around him , i just cant keep it in , he even said that its cause of me he acts like such a big kid -though hes oyunger than me ..............is this really love in the relationship? or just extreme lust ?please, be gentle with your answers cause i swear im in love with him , i feel that i am , but i just want an outside opinion ...................xx thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi guys thanks for your answers , we're still together now, and everythings still amazing ...........thanks for the good wishes too :D xx
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (6 September 2008):
 I agree with Emilysanswers, some people say that it takes time to fall in love but I knew I was in love with mine after a few days.
But we also have to remember that a lot people are wrong. Some people confuse their strong feelings for love or being in love (mostly teenagers) or confuse obsession and manipulation as being in love. It's so hard, though, to draw the line from just strong infatuation with love, so of course there will be disageements from lots of people. I think it's time that tells all and that's why some people say it takes time to fall in love... because the signs are shown through time. If you're still feeling this same way after years, then be sure it is love.
But to me, it sounds like you're in love, or that you're falling for him at least. It actually sounds like my life!
You wanted assurance but in the end it's you who's going to decide. A lot of people will tell you that what you have is just silly games, but they're not feeling what YOU're feeling. And for so, they will never understand.
Good luck and I wish you happiness!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): You'll know if you love a person in five seconds sometimes.
These things have no time limit and must be taken individually.
One way of finding out is asking yourself (and asnwering truthfully) if you love him. If you have to hesitate even slightly... you don't love him.
Flynn 24
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (6 September 2008):
It could be that you are in love with him!
Some people say you have to take a long time to fall in love - I personally knew I loved my husband after a few weeks.
It all just depends on the people.
In the end though does it really matter?
Go out and have fun with him, enjoy being so happy. If it fades then you'll know it was infatuation. If you are still like this in a couple of years time then it's safe to say it is love.
Good Luck!! xx
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