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writes:is possible one can love two person at a time .i m married 18 yr with kids .my husband is nice .i love him care about him,but same time i love another person who fell in love with me.(HE ALSO MARRIED)now i m also attracted to him .i am involved sexxually with both of them .more with boyfriend....some time i feel bad .but more i enjoy.what should i do for future....this situation is from last 8 yrs.no body knows about this .just me and my b.f......both of them r emotionally very close to me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2009): in your village this stink is sure to come out very soon. you not only have been destroying your home but your married lovers too. you say that you are enjoying this double life you are leading so i will not waste my time telling you to end your affair. i think there was a time in your part of the world where affairs where frowned upon, now it is common. so much for good standing, culture and values. you will continue to steal from your husband. there is nothing anyone here that will make you change your mind. you will learn the hard way. your kids will not even look at you when you are exposed for what you are. and you will only have yourself to blame for this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): As dramatic as this may sound,tell your husband you love him and he has your blessing to find some one outside of your marriage. This isnt what i'd want in my life,but i would never do this to my hubby. I think open is better than cheating. Cheating is hidden to avoid a backlash and dont want to feel the hurt you dont mind giving. Its cowardly. I will never agree with this selfishness.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (25 July 2009):
 if u really loved ur husband u wouldnt cheat on him or lie to him.
so its possible your in lust with your boyfriend and just using your husband becoz its convienient.
you might be enjoying urself now, but the truth always does come out. whatever hurt u cause someone else will come back to you if u do it intentionally.
rethink ur actions, becoz to me lying & love do not go hand in hand.
good luck
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reader, ogxtina  +, writes (25 July 2009):
I'm only 17 and I don't have experience in marriage and much about love either, and my words probably don't matter much.. but I'm sure of one thing: You have to choose one person who you love, you can really only be with one person.
I think it's quite possible to love 2 people, and 18 years of marriage is a very long time, but not being honest with your husband about this is wrong. Your husband has the rights to know what he's dealing with..
Hope everything works out for you, but I really think it's possible to love 2 people but impossible to be with both of them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): Wow tough situation but think about it you have been married to this man for 18 years you have raised his children you have a connection with this man that you could never have with you're boyfriend! I would ditch the bf because these types of situations never work out and if they do imagine who your hurting by doing this. If this man is your soul mate and you truly believe that then by all means go for it but by posting your question here your not entirely sure and i would suggest thinking it over before making any rash decisions. If you were in love you would know you wouldn't have to ask i think you experiencing lust not love you're caught up in you're desire for this man. Do not make decisions based on that. You'll only be hurting yourself! who's to say this man is feeling the same way about you? He maybe be in this just for the fun of it. Its quiet a thrill to have something like that.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (25 July 2009):
 Yes. People will tell you "no" but the answer is "yes it is possible"
Be very careful.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): i understand how feelings can develop,and you can not really control them. however, you need to consider your children in this matter. this effects them, because in the long run they will find out, eventually, along with your husband. think back to when you fell in love with your husband, what attracted you to eachother? .. other than looks.. dont throw that all away. i dont know how long you have known this new boyfriend for, but i am guessing it is less than you have known your husband. you have established a life with your husband.. and are you Truly Ready to shatter all that for a man that you have known for less time? i am not trying to make this situation sound dramatic but this is your life, your husbands life, and your children's lives, that you have to consider.not just yourself. i think you should seek counseling and get professional help in order to make the right desicion and straighten things out. i hope you make the right decision and really consider and understand what i am saying. you will be in my prayers.
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