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writes:There's this guy I'm really close with, and he told me he had a gf when I asked. After that I kind of stopped talking to him (Maybe due to this but also because he had an exam coming up and I didn't want to bother him) Then 5 months later when we started chatting again he told me it was just a prank. Why did he do that? And we started chatting again like those days, and just a few days ago I was teasing him about a girl and suddenly he mentioned having a gf, and even showed me a photo. But on Valentines Day I happened to ask him how it was with his sweetheart, and he asked me,"What sweetheart?"Is he lying about having a gf? If so, why is he doing it? How can I find out the truth?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 February 2016):
 I am not sure how you can get the truth, but if this was me I would be avoiding him. He is not a good friend when he is lying to you and he doesn't sound like he can be trusted to tell you the truth.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 February 2016):
 Whether he's telling lies, he's not worth your time. There are two possibilities.
He feels that lying about having a girlfriend would make him more attractive. It's like his status is upped, because he's worthy of a relationship. Also lots of girls feel the need to compete and be the better one than the girlfriends.
After he found that you withdrew after hearing he has a girlfriend, he changed his story. Hopefully by making it ambiguous you would try to spend more time figuring him out. Just don't mistake the need to solve this mystery as having a serious interest in him.
Or he's telling the truth but testing how far it can push you. He wanted to flirt with you, then when things get heated he could say he warned you before about being in a relationship, and it's you who came onto him and took the risk. So the blame would not be all on him.
He could also be having problems with his girlfriend, or having and on and off relationship. During the off period he would test his luck on you, instead of trying to work on issues in his relationship.
I think the truth is this guy likes to play mind games. Even if he has a girlfriend he's not serious about her, and he won't be serious about you even when you got together.
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