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writes:I've been talking to this guy for a good 6 months now. We met through Snapchat. He has been the one initiating conversation majority of the time and he has admitted to liking me and caring about me. He said he wants to get to know me a bit more on a deeper level like my personality, perks and quirks etc. During his busy schedule (university studies, 2 sports he participates in as well as 2 jobs) he still makes time for me and talks to me. He told me he wants to meet me one day, so I gave him my number to call me but he hasn't yet because his very shy and as he told me, has a hard time maintaining conversation. I told him I'd be patient with him on the phonecall but he wants me to open up to him!I'd only open up to him if he was serious about me and I'm not sure if he is. We haven't met up yet due to the distance (12 hours away) but might meet up with him soon, but will only meet up with him if he calls me afew times because if you can't have a conversation over the phone then imagine how it would go in person?Do you think his serious about me or just looking for someone to talk to?
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reader, Riot2017  +, writes (2 August 2017):
If he is doing two sports, two jobs, and a university, I don't think that guy is THAT shy. I'm telling you as a former hard-core shy guy. Since I got a job, and I recently started doing more sports, I feel more confident about myself and I'm more open.
If the guy has not called you, and already wants to meet you, seems to me like a RED FLAG. He should not only call you, but also want to start a video call with you if he wants a relationship with you eventually.
If the guys doesn't haves the guts to do a simple call with you, he will probably doesn't haves the guts to have something more serious with you, and just want to hang out and have fun with you.
As a side note, when I was 12, I got the phone number of this very beautiful girl I meet on a pool. I did call her, and we did chat, but for making the first call I was very terrified. Since we were too young for anything, we did not continue any further calls.
When I was 14, there was this girl I had a crush on, and I did called her for very long phone sessions, and I was a very, very shy guy at that age, so I don't know how I managed to handle those epic long calls.
So in summary, shy guys can call girls, at any age, if they are really interested in the girl. They need to gather a lot of courage to do that thing though, but it's not impossible.
Best luck!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (2 August 2017):
 Why not suggest a Skype/Facetime "hang out"? That way you two can SEE each other and hear each other.
I would NOT go meet someone who can't even pick up the phone. How awkward would it then be in person?
If he after 6 months can't talk to you over the phone what is to say that he can in person?
I think you need to hold back on the emotional level. People can SAY a lot of sweet things doesn't mean they are actually true. Words and talk are cheap.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (2 August 2017):
 We don't know whether he is serious or not BUT do you really want to be in a long distance relationship if he is?
I mean, coming from a long distance relationship myself... It's really really really tough. Especially if you do not have the finances to travel weekends to see each other and stuff like that. A 12 hour gap is a really difficult thing to try to bridge the gap between.
I'd probably let this one go if I were you and look forward to a relationship in the future.
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reader, N91  +, writes (2 August 2017):
 I'm pretty sure you've asked 2 questions about this now already.
It sounds too familiar for it to be a different person.
If you feel like he is messing you around then he probably is. If he can't speak to you on the phone I couldn't even imagine how awkward it would be in person. If he has a hard time keeping conversation then how he is expecting to communicate effectively? Interpretative dance?
I don't think I'd waste my time any longer on someone who lives 12 hours away and I can't work out whether they're serious enough.
If you are the same person that I think you are, you're clearly ignoring the aunts and uncles advice which I read through and you received very good answers. Maybe you need to start taking it on board.
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reader, judgedick  +, writes (2 August 2017):
 I might be way off here but I think he is putting his education first, and we can't blame him for that,
If you have given him your phone no. has he not given you his, if not he is not serious or is keeping it from you if he has what is stopping you from calling him just to say hello blah blah blah good night,
another thing is how far is he from you and what does he want to do after his exams are all over if he has plans to move away
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